am i wrong for asking for oral 3 months after hysterectomy?

Question

She says I'm selfish because with oral I will climax and she wont. I'm really frustrated. plz help.

Answer 1

Unless it's going both ways, yes you are being selfish. Perhaps she still doesn't want sex, her surgery could have some long standing emotional tags to go with it. Depsite what other posts say, a hysterectomy can affect your sex drive, she may feel like less of a woman, and if the ovaries were removed, she's not experiencing the same hormonal drives as before. Be sensitive, supportive, and quit worrying about something you can take care of yourself in the shower. Your relationship should be worth more to you than sexual gratification.

Answer 2

Gee, I don't know. A hysterectomy is major surgery. Have you ever had a major surgery? (I am doubting it.) Sometimes people feel like crap for a lot longer than 3 months after major surgery, and I've heard it said that the anesthetic doesn't even fully leave your body for up to a full year. I think you can find a way to take care of your own needs until such time as your partner indicates to you that she is ready to resume any kind of relations, don't you? To do anything otherwise is going to be seen as selfish by most thinking, caring adults.

Answer 3

You're not selfish to ask for oral sex as long as you're willing to reciprocate. Just because she had a hysterectomy doesn't mean she can't have an orgasm.You both deserve to have a good time!

Answer 4

Is she unable to recieve any kind of stimulation? If she is able to recieve stimulation, then you have a responsibility to her just the same as she has to you. But if the operation makes it so you can't touch anything down there, but she's still able to provide for your pleasure, she has a responsibility to do so. I doubt you got married to become celebate. That goes for her too. Try to find some kind of a position that, given her situation, you can both enjoy. If she refuses to look into it with you, go to someone, a mutual friend you can both trust, and talk it over. If you can't get satisfaction there, go to a marriage counciler.

Answer 5

Your wife is selfish. Go buy her a vibrator so she can get off and you can watch. Then she will owe you some great head daily. Tell her she can't use the "toy" unless your with her or she will never need you again.....lol Don't let her name it after her last boyfriend either.....lol Than should get you both off and into each other.

Answer 6

just wait till shes asleep!LOL No im kidding. You shouldnt have to ask bro if you learn how to make her orgasm with some good oral yourself then she will like returning the favor. Maybe ask her to try a 69 just make sure you get her off first. JEEZ! some guys give us a bad name. GUYS, Go down on your girl, and be good at it and they will love you!!!!

Answer 7

i gave u a thumbs up. i read your last question and this one. people have sexual needs. your willing to satisy her! she just doesnt want you to. and she wont give u anything and on top of that if you masterbate she gets mad. what the hell is up with that. just because she has lost interest means you have to also? no way! shes gonna have to deal with materbating. and im suprised u waited this long to ask for oral. i say keep asking

Answer 8

Menopause and histerectomy are very troumatic phases in a womens life. If she doesnt feel comfortable with oral dont force her. It may lead to depression. Women lose interest in sex after menopause. You have to accept this fact and be very gentle when you deal with your wife.

Answer 9

You are not wrong....your wife is not living up to her end of marital obligations. After 3 months you deserve some relief even if you wife is not interested. The "its not fair" argument is total bullshite. Not putting out is grounds for divorce.....

Answer 10

You are being selfish if you do not do the same for her. It is a two way street when it comes to that. You should satisfy her needs also.