I'm 18 and a freshman in college and I was a virgin until two weeks ago. I was at a house party and I was drinking (I know I know I shouldn't have been.) Anyhow this guy started making out with me and one thing led to another and before I knew it we were in a dark bedroom in the back of the house and he was on top of me. I tried to get away and struggled for a bit but he was bigger than me so I couldn't. I wanted to scream out for him to stop but I didn't. When he was inside me it hurt so much I can't even describe. When it was over I was crying and he just left the room. I feel like this scrumbag ruined my life. I was saving myself for marriage. Now all I think about is that I want to die.
I found out who he was. He's a star player on our football team. If I report this it will make the news. Maybe even national news becuase I've been told he's really, really good and a lot of people across the country know who he his.
I just don't know what to do.
2006-12-21 04:30:04 · 12 answers · asked by boob girl 1 in Sports ➔ Football (American)
I'll pass on your question.
But you signed up here to ask about this and chose the name boob girl?
Readers, draw your own conclusions.
2006-12-23 14:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by wwwwwwwfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true, know that a woman has the option to "say no" at any time before having sex. Just because you may have been willingly participating at the beginning does not mean that he had the right to force you into intercourse!
Don't let guilt of drinking and being in that situation deter you from confronting this guy. He most likely has done this in the past and will most likely continue to do it if he gets away with it.
My advice...talk to a Christian counselor and a lawyer.
God Bless you!
2006-12-21 04:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats pretty much the textbook definition of rape. Whether to report it or not is your decision and you need to take advice from a rape counsellor or doctor. The problem you will have is that unless there were any witnesses (unlikely) it will be your word against his that he raped you or that intercourse ever took place. If you have the clothing you wore that night still and havent washed it then dont as the police may be able to use it for forensic evidence.
Its unlikely that your the first woman hes done this to, or that youll be the last so it may be worth reporting it just to give him a scare even if you dont get a conviction. Good luck.
2006-12-21 04:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Reporting Rape to the Police
Take someone with you to the police station. It is good to have someone familiar with you in a strange place. In most instances, they will be allowed to stay with you all of the time if you want them to. Take someone you feel comfortable talking in front of about what has happened.
If the police are called, you have the right to: 1) discuss it with the officer and then decide to report, 2) discuss it with the officer and decide not to report, 3) refuse to discuss or report it with the officer. These are your rights!
http://healthyplace.com/communities/Abuse/lisk/legal_police_report.htm
Physical Effects of Being Raped
or Sexually Assaulted
http://healthyplace.com/communities/Abuse/lisk/effects_rape.htm
After Rape:
Putting the Pieces Back Together
Trauma can cause psychological as well as physical pain. Trauma can fracture our integral parts (thinking, feeling, sensing, and behavior).
http://healthyplace.com/communities/Abuse/lisk/treatment_rape.htm
2006-12-21 04:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by $Sun King$ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should absolutely go to the police!!!!!!!!!!!! Regardless if you had been drinking, it does not give him the right to force sex upon you. No means no - regardless!!!!! His "star status" does not exempt him from being prosecuted for rape. Whatever the fall out may be from the charges, just remember - HE brought it upon himself when HE made the decision to force sex upon you - you are not the source of his problems. PLEASE report this to the police so that he does not do this again to some other woman.
2006-12-21 04:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by siamsa_siamsa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello whats going on with you. Please dont hurt yourself thats the last thing u what to do is hurt yourself. This is a tough sitiation to be in, i suggest that u think about that night and record your (facts) only about the incident. i see where u are coming from about the star on the team but u have to make a descion about what went on that night if its killing u maybe u need to talk to that person and see what really went on and then see how u feel then just by talking to that person letting him know how you feel. hey just hit me up at peasantjames we will talk then if u need to talk because this is serious
2006-12-21 04:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by happy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats Horrible you definitlly need to do something but ask someone close for advice first
2006-12-21 04:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Best Answers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you didn't report it when it happened then you're kinda screwed if he's really who you say he is...it's your word against his and without the evidence it's gonna be hard to prove...that being said...turn his a$$ in...you have a right to at least try to seek justice...you have to do this to heal...fight...fight hard...don't let him win...do what you have to do to heal
2006-12-21 04:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon M 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you should report anything like this any time it happns
2006-12-22 08:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by jlarthur555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is rape so you should report him.
2006-12-21 04:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by MAF1113 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋