You are in the process of getting a divorce.... You found you ex living 1000 miles away from you. You are going there to visit your best friend and is it ok to hook up with your old flame while you are down there?
2006-12-21 04:27:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes the divorce process is very "friendly" and "civilized". It is just that it has been so long... So the thought of hooking up with an attractive single old flame sounds very tempting at the moment...
2006-12-21 04:36:28 · update #1
We have been emailing each other for almost a month... keep each other updated on what's going on with each other's life...
Not to rekindle the relationship... Hooking up as in some harmless sexy fun?
2006-12-21 04:38:46 · update #2
A married woman is going to look up some guy from the past and hope to sleep with him? Not a good idea.
2006-12-21 04:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tuff question, You may find that your old flame has someone new, I would say that if you are just in the process of getting the divorce then it's not ok, You dont want to be made out to look like a cheater. So I have to say wait and maybe talk to him over coffee or something, but dont do anything else, Have a marry christmas. and good luck
2006-12-21 04:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Zog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Go for it. About 10 years ago I was going thru a divorce and met with an old flame from high school. It was fantastic. We had grown up alot since high school and as adults we had a great weekend together. We remain close friends today,(platonic) even though we both have since married others. Sometimes when your going thru a tough time, it's nice to "reconnect" with a friend from the past.
2006-12-21 06:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by girlgriffin711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not okay until the divorce is complete.
I wouldn't do it and it would take a while before I started dating or hooking up.
I would need to get my head straight first before I committed to someone else even if it was only a hook up.
2006-12-21 04:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends what you have in mind.....
Are you looking for someone to visit with or are you hoping to rekindle the flame?
If you haven't been in contact with him, you don't know what is going on in his life.
Perhaps calling his parents first might be the right thing to do.Let them fill you in.....
For all you know he is not there anymore, or married with 4 kids or serving his country afar. You do not want to intrude on his life if he has a family, that would be very selfish of you.....and presumptuous, that he wants to see you......
Let sleeping dogs lie my dear, and go forward not back......
2006-12-21 04:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP! if you are in the process of getting a divorce, then why not? go ahead & hook up with the fool.
2006-12-21 04:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to compensate one for another..your memories of an old flame may be best kept as the sweet memories they are...just because you are on your own now doesn't mean you have to draw something up from the past..enjoy your singledom for a while before you contemplate starting another relationship hun..I wish you all the best!
2006-12-21 04:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by shoes_and_handbags 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not while you are in the process to the divorce let that happen first then since you know where he is at well then yes go for it
2006-12-21 04:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your going through a divorce then i don,t see nothing wrong with you hooking up with an old friend.and if things turn to relationship wise then thats good.
2006-12-21 05:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋