I am almost 13 and I never had a girlfriend in my life. I need help to get a girlfriend and how to talk to a girl.
2006-12-21 04:20:56 · 22 answers · asked by Srinivas 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
First step: take a bath and brush your teeth
2006-12-21 04:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sam, if you are successful in finding a sure fire method, please let me know as I have had no luck for the past 66 years (apart from my wife, that is).
Seriously though: here we go: Figure out who you fancy - do not go for looks alone as they fade with time, inner beauty lasts forever. Having chosen the girl, make sure she is not too mouthy as everything you tell her will be around the school within twenty-four hours. Make sure she has some money, not too much as it will make you lazy, but enough to keep her in make-up and clothes. Begin to say hello to her when you meet (not necessarily by accident either). Find out all you can about her: her favourite music, band, food etc. Use this as a basis for conversation. Find out what films she likes and the next time one such film is showing locally, invite her to join you to see it. You are now on stage one.
Stage two can be far more important. Always treat her like a lady, with courtesty, kindness and tenderness. Never, ever raise a hand to her or you will pay for it and live to regret it for the rest of your life. Let things progress naturally and never try to run before you have learned to walk. Forget about sex and all that stuff until you are at least 18.
Finally, do not be in any hurry to grow up. You will be old long enough. Build up wonderful memories of your childhood and youth as such memories will keep you warm when you are old and grey.
Have a wonderful Christmas and a Peaceful New Year. Good luck in your hunting and remember, once you have found her, never let her go.....................
2006-12-21 12:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's obviously not time for you to have a girlfriend yet.
Why do you want *a girlfriend* so badly? Does it really matter who she is?
Someday, you will meet a girl and decide that you want *her* to be your girlfriend. That will be a big step toward the maturity you need. It's not like filling a vacancy for a job: romantic feelings have to be toward a person. Otherwise you're not appreciating her for who she is, you're just content the position's been filled by somebody.
If there's a girl you like, get to know her better, do nice things for her, learn what she likes and help her have a good time on her own terms. That's a good start.
If there isn't a girl you like, don't just get a girlfriend to have one.
2006-12-21 12:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by A Shameless Pedant 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are two things that always work:
1) Be confident. Know that you have a lot to offer and if it doesn't work out with the girl you like now, there are a few billion more out there.
2) Get into stuff you really like. When you are really enjoying yourself you display your best qualities and that's going to attract a lot of girls, not just one. Also, you may be having so much fun you're not even worried about girls and that is when they are really interested.
I'll tell you, I am way more into a guy who is busy with something and stops to give me attention then a guy who is doing nothing and just starts talking to me.
2006-12-21 13:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop trying so hard. Just be yourself and involve yourself in things that you are comfortable doing. Perhaps get involved in some intramural sports or join some clubs at school that you are interested in. You shouldn't be in such a rush to get a girlfriend. When the time is right, it will happen. If you force this to happen, the experience will be awkward and uncomfortable. Let nature take its course and this will happen. Just enjoy yourself in the mean time. Good luck!
2006-12-21 12:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are people. There are people you are compatable with and people you aren't. So talking to a girl is no different than talking to a boy - just be nice and show her respect.
At your age the first step is just to get involved in life. Make friends and join activities that you enjoy - sports, school activites, boys and girls club, neighborhood activities, volunteer programs - whatever interests you.
The more active you are, the more friends you will make. The more friends you make, the more girls you will meet. The more girls you meet, the easier it will be to find that special girl who will be your first girlfriend.This is true when you are 13 and it is true when you are 30.
The bottom line is be yourself and be respectful. Good luck.
2006-12-21 12:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok,
well it's important to make sure you are clean (i know what 13 year old boys can be like)
Get talking to her as a friend at first, you should find out more about her before you make any moves.
Soon she will trust you and you will have a good friendship!
But dont leave it too long otherwise she will just see you as a friend.
Talk to her about normal things, just general topics.
Im talking as a girl who has experienced this - dont become all clingy, and make her feel guilty talking to other lads, coz this might put her off you-
Be free, cool and yourself, they are attractive qualities.
2006-12-21 12:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by snow white 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you like her. just be nice, and friendly... little nice things are what a girl wants... but you just want a girlfriend, right, you dont know if youre going to get married or anything, its just fun. you are old enough for a girlfriend, and dont let old people tell you you arent. really, that bugs me sooooo much when they say, youre too young... im rambling again arent i? sorry...
2006-12-21 13:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by M T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, this is the wrong place to ask serious questions cuz most people just don't care.
My advice is trust your own feelings and watch what other guys do. But, just be confident and believe in yourself. When you believe in yourself other people will too.
2006-12-21 12:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jim Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
13 god yall starting early, actually i think you are a lil young but first you have to get to know the girl you like then ask her out but honestly there is no perpose to have a girlfriend intill you are around 16.
2006-12-21 12:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by eclipsefreak 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The first step, which is not always necessary, is being male. You have done that well so you are on your way. Good luck.
2006-12-21 13:17:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋