my sister is having an affair with a married man. She wants him to leave his wife and get married to her. He claims that he feels the same way. However, he wants his son to finish college first. His son is only two years old. She wants to know if she should wait. this guy says he is highly mis understood by his wife......any help please as i can't get her to listen to my point of view.....maybe you guys can help.
2006-12-21 04:16:41 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HA HA H HA HA HA HA HA.
Is your friend a lil slow????
She wants to know if she shoudl wait 20 years, LOL
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2006-12-21 04:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have no crystal ball, but I would bet a lot of cash that this man will never leave his wife.
All the lines about his wife not understanding him are just the words of a guy that wants the mistress to feel special. He gives her false hope that he might leave his wife just to keep the sex going. He knows that if he says something like, "Look, I think you are just a dirty little ho and I like banging you on the side." He is probably unlikely to get lucky. So he makes up a bunch of lies about how he loves her and how his wife doesn't understand him etc etc to get laid.
As the biggest joke of all he is saying that he wants his son to finish college before he leaves his wife! HA! That's such a funny line. So basically, he is going to consider leaving his wife in 20 years! SURE. If your sister believes this line she is clearly mentally challenged. In 20 years she will be old and ugly, the man is going to have even less reason to leave his wife then.
Finally there is plenty to the expression, once a cheater always a cheater. Even if this guy left his wife, sold the family home, moved in with your sister and gets married, how will she ever trust him? She will have to live with the knowledge that she found her husband by helping him cheat on his wife. Does she really think that she is so special that it could never happen to her? She needs to get real.
All she is doing is encouraging a married man with a child to cheat on his wife. She risks breaking up a family, hurting a child, and causing all kinds of heart ache. What she is doing is selfish and wrong. She needs to look for a single man, and consider others, not just herself.
If she continues down this path it will bring her nothing but sadness and disappointment. Quite honestly if this is how she chooses to behave, she probably deserves it.
2006-12-21 04:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, she is going to put her life on hold for a loser for at least the next 20 years. He wants his nice life with his wife, but wants some on the side too. He will never leave his wife and be with her the way she wants. If he is sooooo unhappy, he would leave his wife whether or not he was with your sis. Why would she want a man who is unfaithful? If he did it to his wife, he would probably do it to your sis also if they were together. What happens if the wife gets pregnant again? Does she have to wait for that kid to finish college too? Hopefully, she doesn't believe that he doesn't have sex with his wife, because he probably is on a regular basis. She needs to find a man who loves her and is willing to commit to her only, not an unfaithful, lying loser. She deserves better than him.
2006-12-21 04:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I read was the first line. No, she should not wait for this man. He probably won't leave his wife and if he does, your sister and him will not make it in a relationship. Odds are, he is probably using her (unconsciously) as an excuses to leave because he doesn't have the courage to deal with his problems (what ever they are) the right way. This spells disaster and something inside of your sister will die. You will lose the person inside of her that you knew. See if you can get her to stop this affair now.
Good luck.
2006-12-21 04:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Si S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister should not be fooling around with a married man in the first place. This is wrong. Secondly, he will most likely never leave his wife so why should she waste her time and love on someone she will not be able to trust even if he does leave his wife. I mean, if he could cheat on his current wife why wouldn't he cheat on your sister. How does she know if she is the only one?
2006-12-21 04:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Biker Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things you shouldn't do in life, like have an affair with a married man. This man is using his son as an excuse. If she wants to wait sixteen years only to find out he has no intention of being with her that's her decision.
2006-12-21 04:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by reflective_pool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on one woman he will cheat again. He is not looking for a relationship, he just wants to have an affair. The guy wants his cake and eat it too. She shouldn't wast her time with this guy he is not worth it. This guy doesn't care about anything but his self, he is not worried about your sister, his child, or his wife. All he is looking for is a fling. Who is going to wait on someone for 20 years or more. Your sister needs to Wake up and smell the coffee, this guy is feeding her a line of bull crap and she is falling for it. If he wanted to leave his wife he would have before he started cheating. He is a liar, he is lying to his wife and to your sister. Tell her to get out of this nowhere relationship before this guy destroys her, he has already destroyed his marriage and your sister had a part in this. Men who cheat one time, will surely do it again.
2006-12-21 04:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by jlynncogbill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,i don't think so. This is the time for your sister to strike instead of waiting. Waiting would not help. If she really loves the man then she must let man marry her right away.Cuz if the child is only two, this will let the child think your sis is it's mommy. the child will learn to love her and take her as it's own.Aside this I do not agree to your sister breaking up a marriage. it states in the bible that WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER LET NO MAN SEPARATE.
2006-12-21 04:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by abie_4u2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister has been through this with several married men. None of them have left their wives. Why would she give up the best years of her life waiting for a man who would lie to/cheat on his current wife? He IS misunderstood by his wife and your sister, they are misunderstanding that his goal is to look like an angel in both of their eyes while having his cake and eating it too.
2006-12-21 04:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no... she souldn't wait for him! As a matter of fact, she should get the hell out of his marriage. She is nothing but a squeeze to him and he is risking loosing his family. If his son has to grow up without his father in his house he will be much likely to even go to college. She is playing with the lives of two innocent victims here, the mans wife and his child. Shame on your sister!
2006-12-21 04:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Bruce C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so misunderstood(blah,blah, blah,blah)he needs to wait till his son finishes college in some 20plus years(blah,blah, blah,blah)Same crap, different guy. Unfortunately there is probably not a thing you can say to your brain numb sister to stop this train wreck. She will probably continue to listen to his "bs" and will waste away precious time that we are given on this loser. Just be a good sister and have the box of kleenex ready when either he finds someone else or the wife finds out and takes care of business on the both of them. We stupid women will never learn will we?
2006-12-21 05:02:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋