i have an 11 yr old who has an attitude of a grown person. I have tried everything! What would you do?
2006-12-21 04:13:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
*Discipline Techniques that Often Backfire*
-Embarrassing -Repeating commands
-Humiliating -Pleading, begging
-Spanking (physical punishment) -Ordering
-Taking away favored things -Nagging
-Punishing psychologically -Labeling
-Engaging in power struggles -Arguing
-Rewarding misbehavior -Threatening
-Giving in to undue commands -Being vague
-Allowing child to manipulate adult -Fussing
-Saying what you don't mean -Being inconsistent
-Expecting child to read your mind -Losing your cool
-Allowing dangerous, destructive, -Making child feel guilty
embarrassing behavior to continue
*Discipline Techniques that Work*
-Following through with what you say -Being consistent
-Modeling appropriate behavior -Being firm yet kind/fair
-Clearly stating expectations before -Giving a child a choice
child has engaged in undesirable act only when you intend to
-Rewarding positive behavior and to accept that choice
ignoring negative behavior (except -Making the child feel
when dangerous, destructive, or worthwhile, liked and
embarrassing) successful
-Providing consequence for misbehavior -Providing when/then
immediately after undesirable act is statements; "When you
performed have...then you may."
-Providing if/then statements; "If you -Abuse it/lose it
have...then you may." -Redirecting misbehavior
-Removing child from the -Shaping non-existent
situation behaviors
2006-12-21 04:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
BOY OR GIRL? Makes a big difference. I find it interesting that you don't mention gender. That means something to a psychologist.................... What is "an attitude of a grown person"?
DO NOT hit anyone. Not a child, adult or animal. It only makes the situation more difficult. Pain never solved anything. Communication is a great tool to use instead of inflicting pain.
If you think this attitude is bad, just wait, it only gets worse! It is called growing up. Do you know a child's brain does not mature until they are 25 years old?
2006-12-21 12:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I have a 12 & 13 year old (boys). Right now the 13 year old has lost these priviledges. TV, Computer, Video Games and MP3 Player. It has been one week and his attitude has greatly improved. He still has another week to go. We won't give in!!
2006-12-21 12:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by queenmackerel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, 11...I was thinking time out, but that wouldn't fit!!!! Sending them to their room? Change your attitude if they are getting it from you? Don't really know....my children were perfect!! LOL
2006-12-21 12:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good spanking works sometimes.
2006-12-21 12:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by RACQUEL 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Manual labor, or pushups, crunches, flutter kicks, etc..Turn exercise into a weapon.
2006-12-21 12:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take away TV, computer, video games, phone, etc.
2006-12-21 12:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by waaaaaac 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing but the love and affection with attention.
2006-12-21 12:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by prince47 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
an old fashioned spankin....it worked for me. i make good grades and stuff. i got spanked when i was little.
2006-12-21 12:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by manatee_love 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
make then eat a can of veggies i hear they don't like broccoli
2006-12-21 12:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sluttythenun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋