my fiance and i haven't had the best of luck together. nothing ever seems to go right for us, and sometimes we argue and fight about things that shouldn't even matter. i'm 19 and he's 25 and he moved from his home in Florida to be with me in Virginia so i could finish school, leaving his whole life behind and his family. we haven't had the best of luck like I've mentioned before, and we aren't in the best financial state. i don't want this holiday to be miserable for him. we're about to have a baby and I want him to have a christmas like he's used to having. I want him to feel at home. how can i make this holiday special for him?
2006-12-21 04:03:18 · 21 answers · asked by kaiyas_mom07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A man can do anything with a good woman supporting him. Do what it takes to make him know that he is everything to you. Forget about the "Christmas he is used to having". Christmas is not about getting, it's about giving. You have soo much to offer him! The biggest and cherished gift of all isn't something you buy at the mall, it is the gift of giving your heart to him. Make him know that he owns your heart and soul and that you would never want things to be any less. Good luck to you guys and I hope you have the best Christmas and New Year ever!
2006-12-21 04:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Instead of worrying about how his old Christmas was, start your own new traditions. Try romantic notions. Did you get him more then one gift? If so, On Christmas Eve, let him open one at night. Set out some candles and go for the romance angle. Also did you get him a gift from the baby. That should make him smile. Good Luck to you and remember things are always hard before they get easy! If you both stick it out it will work out.
Its not about the material things you get for Christmas. Just try to make it special in other ways. Cook him a special meal. If you where not able to afford to buy him something. Then do a pamper him day. Where you cook his favorite meal, give him a back rub, I am sure you get the idea.
2006-12-21 12:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Issym 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just a thought, and I know it's short notice now...But why don't you take a drive down to Florida, spend the holidays with his family and friends? You said you're finishing school, so you should be on vacation right now. You don't have a lot of money to do things on your own, so instead of trying to make Christmas what it used to be, just head south so that it is what it used to be for him. Hope this helps...It's nice to see such a young woman so concerned about her fiance. I wish there were more women like you out there. Good luck and Happy Holidays.
2006-12-21 12:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Chaney34 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Instead of focusing on material gifts, try the ones that have more sentiment attached - those are the ones that really matter. Start making holiday traditions of your own, together as a family. Include the baby, too.
Cook/bake for him - even if you're not very good in the kitchen, he'll appreciate your efforts. Give him a massage, scrub his back in the shower.... little things like that make all the difference!
2006-12-21 12:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, first question, why the hell did you marry at 19? Your way to young...your whole life, it'll just be miserable with love and family...you will not get to experience independence, and the life before a family. But that's not the point.
If you want this Christmas to be specail, put up a tree and buy each other some gifts. When you say a specail christmas, it isn't a christmas like no other, it's a unique and different christmas. Do something different that he hasn't done on christmas day. Try not to argue.
2006-12-21 12:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by lizarose2007 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sure this is a stressful time... but try and think before you speak so the arguing is at a minimum.
Make him a special dinner, light some candles. If you can afford it, get him one gift and make him go on a scavenger hunt to find it. Play some games. Invite some friends over for a little while. Play Christmas tunes. Decorate with whatever you can. Simply make it festive.
2006-12-21 12:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember Christmas is about being together with your family. NOT about presents. You should make it special by asking his family to send a video message. The first year is especially difficult and to top it off with a baby. Wow... I was married 4 years before my first baby. My hormones were crazy and some days my husband couldnt stand me... Its gotta be hard trying to figure out a new marriage and pregnancy. Good Luck... Whatever you do... remember your still young you have an entire lifetime!
2006-12-21 12:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes a long time to adjust to living together, especially if you don't have family around. Start your own traditions for Christmas. Make a very special dinner, rent a Christmas movie, and make sure you call both of your families. Relationships don't take luck, they are the hardest job you will ever have.
2006-12-21 12:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
decorate to the best of your financial ability, stockings and all ($1 store has some great items believe it or not), and bake as much as you can: pies, side dishes, etc, have the place smelling like spice candles, and music playing when you can. and be as positive and cheery as you can be without being fake or overwhelming. Offer to go look at lights or maybe attend a cheap play in downtown or something. Watch old christmas movies together.
2006-12-21 12:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by mafarrar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are comfortable talking to his family find out from them some of the traditions they practicfe during the holidays. Are there certain foods that he likes and is used to having mom make? Are there certain gifts he's used to getting? Be creative and use his family as your resource, he will recognize your efforts and you will have a happy holiday.
2006-12-21 12:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by Love2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋