I think I'm in a bad relationship, but feel trapped. I'm going to give it a good go over christmas but if things don't pick up on his side then I have some thinking to do.
Sometimes i feel like he's manipulating me, and it might be a bit emotionally abusive. To be honest, I don't know - I keep changing my mind.
What are my options in terms of talking to a professional.
Price is a concern, so if time
2006-12-21 03:48:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think I am in danger, just feel like I am being manipulated and controlled.
He has major insecurity, trust and paranoia isssues.
Hard to work out whether these are issues to work through or whether its too much for me to be able to handle wihtout losing myself.
2006-12-21 03:57:05 · update #1
My close friends and family live on the other side of the world.
I have a few friends here, but nothing overly close.
2006-12-21 03:58:51 · update #2
I would reccomend talking with a professional counselor to determine if the treatment you are getting from your s.o. is abusive, or just personality conflict.
I can tell you from personal experience that you don't have to stay in a bad relationship. Just make sure that if you decide to leave, and if it does get to the point of abuse, you keep yourself safe.
2006-12-21 03:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are hotlines that you can call and talk to someone for free and when you have the time. Do a simple search ont he net and I am sure you will find lots of options.
here is a question I think you should ask yourself. Do you really want to spend any more time or the rest of your life withthis man that you think is manipulating and can be emontionally abusive?? (there is no "bit" in emotional abuse. You either are or your not) Are these the things you want in a man?? My man is not perfect, but never would I use these words to describe him.
Being a child of a an abusive realtionship, I urge you to get out while you can. There are so many nights when I hear my mom say I should have left him when I could have. Now she is in her 50's and she is still with my dad, who still makes her feel bad about herself, he blames her for everything, and it's not fair to her or to us.
2006-12-21 11:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by princesscutesmile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not all relationships are perfect and not everyone knows what they want.
stop convincing yourself that things will change
and we all have the tendancy that ''my relationship aimnt gonna work its to wrong and abusive'', but when we are away from him or her we feel that the relationship wasnt that bad, now thats called denial sweety and if you feel that he minipulative and emotionally abusive thenquit changing your mind and make a decision, if not as trapped as you already are, if you stay the old ball and chain will be quite hard to get off and will weight you down and youll have no where to go but in a downwards spiral, theretically speaking.
no one can make up your mind for you but only you and i hope you make the right decion all we can do is give you advice and its either you take it ir leave it hun and you should take it
good luck sweety
2006-12-21 13:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine there is a price-contingent therapist in your area. I would try social services, they would know. If you feel he is manipulating you, he probably is. And why do you feel trapped, if you want out there shouldn't be a reason not to. Even if you have children together, it would be better for them not to see you hurt. Even if you don't have a lot of money and are reliant on him. It's a good time to become self-reliant. And you can always count on friends and family, they will only want what is best for you.
2006-12-21 11:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you do figure it out during Christmas, so you won't continue to change your mind - that is your biggest obstacle; evaluating your own opinion, your self worth. Hopefully, you won't be a victim of manipulation and abuse for too much longer, if you would just make up your mind. BE STRONG, and go with your instincts. They exist for a reason after all...
2006-12-21 11:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are unhappy in the relationship, you should probably end it...although if he has paranoia problems, that could put you in a difficult position, as some perople like that have trouble letting go after someone breaks up with them...i think you should break up with him, and if he continues to manipulate you, then ye, get some help.
2006-12-21 12:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you have admitted it also saying you feel trapped is there anyone in which you could move in with for a month?? If not you could look over the christmas for a cheap room even temperarily.
Tell you what please Email me and il see what i can do for you!!
Even emotionally support you.
Its free advise if i can help!! I want to help you if i can
2006-12-21 11:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by rosa_govan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frosty after reading your other questions - i dont think its you that needs the help but him.
He sounds very insecure and controlling by what you've said in previous questions and I think he could be playing mind games with you into making you believe that you are the problem and not him.
xx
2006-12-22 05:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Contact your local batter womens shelter. They will give you the info on free classes, workshops and counselors.
2006-12-21 11:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out why you can,because it sound like you are in a unhealthily relationship.God will Bless you with someone,have faith. You are important and don't let no one tell you your not.I been were you are,But I love myself and had faith that God was there for me.So like I said believe in GOD!!!!
2006-12-21 12:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋