if i child were molested at 5 then raped and almost raped again at 18 what psychological problems go on?

Question

well all the above has happened to me which is why im asking, i've had to deal with growing up being shy and scared like everything i did was wrong, as i got older i felt a bit more normal but at 18 if i even dressed like i was going some place nice i felt like everyone was staring and new what had happened to me when i was younger. Other things i go through seem to tie in also

well i appriciate your answers and sympathy you've given me i'd like to add more info on my experience and the outcomes of them when i was 5 shyness and thinking everything i did was wrong uncluding the taking of my childhood innocence and just like in the movies where the little girl plays with the dolls undresses them and soforth. i know that im strong enough to know that i can go on and lead a normal life and yes your right about the purmiscousity im very certian that i would need to see a counsler about this but i would like to know your opinion if you think its strange to have been raped in actuality (hated it) but to want to be raped because of the adreniline idk if its because its a new type of thrill for sex like if your having sex outdoors or what.

Answer 1

OMG----- i was raped/molested at five as well. By an uncle who watched us in the summers. I saved my sister from the same fate by keeping quiet and doing what he said. so i never told. Guilt is always on my mind. I was raped at a party at 16 buy my best friend and 2 other boys from another school. After that i feel into a deep depression for a while. Then I blocked it all out till i was out on my own and then memories were flooding my mind. I have gone to counciling----but still suffer from nightmares and flash back ( ptsd) but am learnign to deal and move on. I now teach at risk students. I think i have found my nitch.

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Answer 2

This can vary so much from person to person, it is not really helpful to generaise too much. Some folks go on to lead quite normal lives - viewing themselves as a "survivor of abuse" rather than wearing the "victim of abuse" tag.

Same thing happened, but "survivior" is a much stronger and more positive mindset than "victim". It depends a lot on how you see yourself.

Some caution and shyness with interaction is understandable after somethnig like this - BUT is also perfectly natural to a point for young adults anyway - not everyone starts out being super-confident - even those "putting on a great act" to make you *think* they are confident.

Depending on where you are, there will almost certainly be some free resources for you access if you wish - in the UK there are various Young-Person counselling organisations set up to enable you to choose if you would like to chat things through with a professional.

I suspect the same service exists in many countries in one form or another.

So, yes, there might be a few things that you could benefit from "working through" - so you can dump your emotional baggae if you would like to - but it sounds as though you are perhaps dealing with things quite well already - as in facing reality rather than trying to deny it ever happened.

If you feel it appropriate, there is help avalable for you - as and when the time feels right for you to deal with it.

Good luck - and thank you for providing a personal and thought provokingly powerful question for us.

Mark

Answer 3

You have had a hard time, and believe me I know what your going through, I had been raped, molested, sodomised and brutalised from the age of 8 to 18years in boys homes and orphanages so I know what you feel.First up you are doing the very thing that needs to be done, you are talking to your friends about it, the next and most vital thing you should do IS, you have to talk to your man, this is a must, explain to him about what you have been through and suffered, this way he will know what to do when you are in pain and suffering, as for the flash backs they will be there with you for a long time, you just have to remember that they are just that, flashbacks, they can not hurt you any more, but you are hurting yourself and your partner by not telling him about what you faced and still hurts you. Bye the way, you do not need to seek proffesional help, its like you say they don't help all they do is prolong it and make you feel bad as if it was your fault.

Answer 4

I'm sure that you will have a very difficult time trusting people, especially men. When you are involved with a man, there will probably be intimacy issues where you won't be able to view intimacy or sex normally, even with a guy you care about. You might get nervous, upset, mad, scared. You'll need to find a guy that will understand your past and I'm not sure if you've sought after therapy yet, but that would be a good idea to help stabilize you again.

Answer 5

Sometimes you are very shy, afraid of touching, closeness, intimacy, sex. Sometimes it ends up the opposite, promiscuity, etc. Please see a counselor to resolve issues, concerns. I am speaking from experience. Some clinics charge on a sliding scale in regards to your income, what you can pay. Good luck.

Answer 6

what happened to you was not your fault. please seek counceling
so you won't feel at fault or ill at ease in social situations. it may take some time and a lot of inner work on your part, but it will be well worth the efforts. good luck!

Answer 7

Everyone responds differently, but a common occurence is promiscuity.

Answer 8

Well, i think you should get alot of phobias, you know, people touching you, social things, and etc. And sometimes people who do get raped lose their sanity, but it seems like you still have yours.