im crying crying n crying coz im extremely hurt mentally. plzzz help me?

Question

My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs.Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th nov he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prosti**te. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me .When 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me,He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me.I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me .He considers me to be a very cheap gurl whereas i was with my parents when he thought me to be dating with some guy as his friends told him so.He only trusts his friends n they keep telling him im bad.NOW HE SENT 2 MESGS ON 2DEC.I MESG-HOW'S UR BF?2-I MAY B SILENT BT DEEP IN MY HEART I MISS U.NOW HE SENT 3 MESGS ON MY..

MY BIRTHDAY, A VERY FORMAL MESG "HAPPY BIRHTDAY". THEN I CALLED HIM TO THANK HIM N HE HAD A FORMAL TALK N I HEARD HIS FRIENZ CALLING HIM N HE SAID E WILL TALK LATER. THEN AT 12AM AT NITE HE AGAIN MESGD HAPPY BDE. NEXT DAY I MESGD AROUND 2 NOON"THANX FOR UR WISHES N HAV A NICE DAY". BUT THE MESG WASNT SENT SO I SENT IT AGAIN. HE MESGD THT WAT IS THE NEED TO SEND SAME MESG AGAIN. I MESGD THT HTERE IS SOME PROB IN MY CELL N IM SORRY N CATCH U LATER. HE MESGD THT-"NO NO NO. THERE'S NO NEED TO CATCH ME AGAIN". I WANA KNOW Y HE MESGD ME THEN??? N WHY HE BECAME SO RUDE N SENT ME SUCH A MESG??? WILL HE EVER CONTACT ME AGAIN COZ I REALLY LOVE HIM . IM CRYING SINCE THT DAY. PLZZZ TELL ME WILL HE EVER CONTACT ME AGAIN?? WHAT SHOULD I DO???

Answer 1

I agree with all who answered above me. He sounds controlling which means he's trying to manipulate your mind and lower your self-esteem. Please understand that right now no one else is putting up with his sour stuff. You don't need to either. It's hard but please use your will power. When you look back later in years, you will see that you made the right decision. Experience other people. Why return to the unhappiness he's bound to dish out. People do not change over night as you hope they would. You won't be able to change him - and he's not ready to change because he thinks he's the #$#^ sit. He can't love you the way he is suppose to and the way you want to be loved. So don't be desperate for HIS affections (the can is empty), And the reason why he will try to control you is because he is out of control with himself and thinks no one else is right but he can't see it. Take Heed. We all say - DON'T DO IT!!!!

Answer 2

You "really love" someone who physically and emotionally abuses you? I don't believe that.

Change you phone number and move forward with your life. Being alone is infinitely better than being abused - and once you get emotionally healthy and stop hanging on to your past, you will find someone who values you and will not abuse you.

If this person continues to harass you, contact the police and ask for information on how to obtain a restraining order.

Answer 3

Whatever you have to do get away from this person and stay away. If you feel like you have been threatened call the police and make a report or get a restraining order.
Change your telephone # and do not give it to him or any of his friends. There are other guys out there...that will treat you with respect. Do not settle for anything less.

Answer 4

You should ignore any future phone calls or text messages from him, and you should GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!! Do you enjoy the abuse? Why do you want him back if he abuses you? Hold yourself in a bit higher esteem and stop settling for a loser. NO woman deserves abuse, and there ARE men out there who will not abuse you.

Answer 5

Girly, I would not WANT him to contact me again! He sounds like a loser and a half and if he is abusing you, well thats just a violent person waiting to happen! Don't get back with him anymore. Turn the tables and don't respond to his text msgs, calls, instant msgs, etc. He is using this tactic to control you and it is working. He knows how to get to you. Don't let him! Tell your parents and if you have to call the police and let them know he is harrassing and threatening you.

Answer 6

Dump the character.
Give him the taste of his own medicine.
Ring him up abuse him and warn him that his messages which you have saved will be turned over to the law enforcing agencies with a charge of sexual harassment and threat to life.

Answer 7

u shouldn't think about him, if his abuse continues, call the police. that is harassment and he can go to jail. if he hurt you physically he can do alot of time. please get help, if you don't want to do that go to a psychologist, they can help you through this. but i urge you, take some action, he may do this to more women in the future so i suggest you call police NOW, save the messages he sends you and get caller id so u don't pick up his calls. u can stop this, i wish u luck and safety.

Answer 8

Develop a backbone, this guy is nothing but trouble and will never treat you well. Kick him to the curb please!!!1 He abuses you because he knows he can get away with it. Tell him to drop dead.

Answer 9

Bring this stuff to Jerry Springer Show...say all what you said here,cry a little bit,slap him a few times and you could make thousands of dollars...

Answer 10

he seems like a dirtball and seems to be playing with your mind because he knows that he is hurting you while he's doing it...and it's making him feel better because he feels so bad about himself and this is how he's trying to feel better. stop all contact with him now. if things keep progressing and he wont leave you alone, please tell someone about what is going on. this is not healthy and its destroying you emotionally. he is not worth it.give up on him.