I was not. She cheated me and all of our mutual acquaintenances know this. Is she just trying to make me out as the bad guy after she said she wouldn't say a bad word about me?
2006-12-21 03:40:43 · 16 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Over two years after I filed for divorce my ex counter sued for "Cruel and Abusive" Like you never did and would never do. It took over two years going through the divorce process she had to drop the counter-sued to "Irreconcilable differences" This is just her way of punishing you and to give her a leg up if there is children involved. Its all about power and control. It is easier for people to believe if she plays the victim.
Don't pitch into the dirt and take the high ground because it is easy to fall into that trap. I used the "drop the rope" approach because the faster you can get on with your own life the better you will feel. Good Luck
2006-12-21 04:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it looks like she's trying to excuse her cheating. Obviously your friends and acquaintences are taking your side since they know she cheated. She's trying to redirect the attention from her actions by making an excuse about WHY she cheated. This seems to be heading for a pretty nasty divorse. I think you might want to start looking for a lawyer who will help with defamation of character. Other wise, she might take the bad mouthing deeper and hurt you VERY MUCH in the long run. Good luck.
2006-12-21 11:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a lot of times this is the easiest way for women to justify being unfaithful. Just keep your cool and take your bumps. Any reaction from you would just be viewed as the stamp of approval on her accusations. And if people ask just say, " Some people will say anything to cover up their mistakes." Let others tell your story. Don't fight with male anger but with female calmness. LOL
2006-12-21 11:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she enjoys playing the victim and wants all of the sympathy it will garner from people who don't know the situation. Consider yourself lucky that it is over.
As you mutual acquaintances and friends know the truth, I am sure they will speak up for you and she is just making a fool of herself by spewing lies.
What goes around comes around and what she is trying to do to you will come back to her someday. It may in the form that she will end up hooking with someone that is abusive as she is advertising that she has put up with all this trauma from you; she may be viewed as a walking doormat to the poor souls her believe her lies.
2006-12-21 11:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know to your heart that you never abused her, then don't bother with the rumor that she is sharing around. If you keep talking about it and beating yourself up on it, then people will suspect that you used to abuse her. Be the better person in life. Just move on!!!!
Enjoy your holidays
2006-12-21 11:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants sympathy and to take the blame off of her for cheating. It sounds like she is trying to get people to feel sorry for her and place the blame of her cheating on your shoulders!!
2006-12-21 11:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make herself look and feel better about cheating on you. You an your friends know the truth so don't sweat it.
2006-12-21 22:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naturally. People have a hard time admitting they were the bad guy so they lie.
2006-12-21 12:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mutual acquaintances know how you are, why worry about it? The only person you have to answer to is yourself. If you know you didn't do it, then you should be able to sleep at night.
2006-12-21 11:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cousin did the same thing to her ex-husband. She was making us believe he was the worst person in the world. We hated him. Until one day she slipped up and said he was good to her and he never touched her. Either your ex just wants attention or she's crazy or both.
2006-12-21 11:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋