Have you ever been a friend with someone from another race or ethnicity?

Question

and instead of just being friends you felt like the ambassodor of your race

for exampleif you did someting stupid or acted a little disrespectful that person would say,,"that's just the way white people are raised to be," and all of a sudden you feel like the reason for his ignorance like you created a racist person

do you think it's fair to put anybody in that position of having to prove his race to someone,,,,this sounds wierd but I had this experience with a few hispanic people and it made for a more stressful freindship,,,more non casual

this is a wierd concept but I hope you understand what I mean to say

I rather be called a bad person than a typical white person,,get me

Answer 1

I'm friends with people of other races. I never feel this way. To me race has never been that big of an issue. I grew up thinking that skin color is no different than eye or hair color. If these people are really your friends, then they wouldn't be stressing you out and making broad generalizations about your race. Unless they're kidding...in which case you should tell them that it hurts your feelings and makes you uncomfortable when they say stuff like that. True friends see who you are on the inside. Communication is the key to any healthy relationship.

Answer 2

I have lived in different ethnic neighborhoods but never had a real good friend.My ethnic group is a sub of one of the major ones in my country and so people took interest in teasing me a lot in high school.i got used to it and started turning it over to those who teased me.I realized that we are all imperfect and so if we don't grow up then we must use our imperfection to attack each other.
When i came to the US and my first day at school,some two ladies asked me if people in my country ,Ghana,live in trees.I got really offended but never showed it up.I soon realized that most Americans don't know how to use the cutlery to eat.I saw people using knife to cut the food and put it down,then pick the fork to pick the food up.It is almost like using one hand to use two cutlery.People in my country would be surprised to see someone go through the European style in quite a hassle like some Americans do.Racism i believe is started by those who consider themselves the majority or "boss" and so it has come to stay.People from my tribe are laughed at for their inability to speak good English whilst those who consider themselves as the best cannot pronounce R.We are all short of something and must stop getting on each other nerves.
I agree with you that people give you what you deserve than what your race deserve.But the problem is that people won't change so we will have to deal or live with it.

Answer 3

I understand what you are saying, I do not like the idea of my behavior being the spokes person for the entire black race. But sometimes I think we get in those positions in friendships. Our friends, if from a different ethnic background tend to think if they know us, they know the entire race. I may be someone that just don't do a certain thing or like a certain thing, don't base your whole opinion on me for the entire race of people.

Answer 4

You speak like you in somwhere where there are only your race/ethnicity around.

Anyway, yes. I have been friends with guyanese, puerto rican, mexican, chinese, asian-indians etc. I am filipino.

We have our different beliefs - that's just the way it is.

*** About not so long ago, there was a filipino kid in Montreal, Canada. He was eating his food with a fork and a spoon. Since people of European heritage, they use a fork and a knife. The teacher of this kid found the kid without food ethiquette.

*** That was wrong of the teacher, from our point of view. In the Philippines, we have our ethiquette. In eating our food, we use a fork and a spoon. That was not considered wrong - we even learn the formal way of using it as described in our books.

*** It is a true story. It hurts us fellow filipinos.

I would agree that it is tremendously hard for friendship to build between races. Our separate beliefs distinguishes us from them and makes us less-than-ordinary.

Answer 5

Yes, this has happened to me too, its stupid and awkward, isn't it? Some people cannot just ignore your ethnicity/origin or whatever and see you just like a person. Especially when I used to live in a different country than mine, a lot of times I had encounters of this sort with friends, just like the one of us should prove his ethnicity to the other. But, if one of the two is not racist or ignorant, when you know somebody for a long time and be real friends with her/him, you both get over it.

Answer 6

I have been friends from people from another race, in fact MY race is so random nearly everyone i meet is from another race. For some reason the issue of race never comes up...I mean, people are scared to say stuff like 'you people' because then they'll sound racist.

Answer 7

I haven't had that problem happen to me, but I was in SLC with my guy friends and I was gonna meet up with my mothers parents. When we met up they were offended that I was hanging out with two hispanics and an african american, instead of hanging out with good white mormon boys. I was so mad at them I told them since they still couldn't grow up and I had only allowed the meeting for a new possibility of a relationship with them, they could go away and when they decided to accept me and my friends then I would consider a relationship with them. Later the guys told me that I didn't have to do that because they were used to that kinda stuff. I told them that no one could diss my friends and that meant no one. So, I've seen it happen, but it really hasn't happened to me.

Answer 8

no, none of my friends are of a different race, in our group, you are counted as black if you have dark brown hair or even brown eyes. i think someone i know is about a quarter bangladeshi or something. you see the minorities walking around occasionally but they are very unsociable and only talk to eachother, their loss, dosent bother me.

Answer 9

I was embarrassed by it once when I used the term "you people". It made the other person very angry and I just felt like an idiot.

Answer 10

the hispanics u dealt with were racists.

no,ive never felt that way.

i have been the only white guy around alot of black babes,& i felt like they were constantly checking me out.like my butt,etc but i kind of liked it. lol :P