Married at age 18?

Question

She's very mature for her age. Everbody thinks she acts like and looks like she's at 24. Her and her fiance love eachother very much. They never want to be apart again.
(he's a bit older than her)

Do you think she's too young?
What's your oppinion?

Yes, this someone is actually me and my fiance is 30.

We've lived together for the past 6 months and have been together for as bit over a year.
I am a German Citizen and he is a US citizen. We are getting married so i can stay in the US and be with him. We agreed to get married to we can be together and love eachother for the rest of our lives.

But i just wanted eveybody to answer if it was somebody else BUT me

Answer 1

I GOT MARRIED AT 18 AND ITS THE BEST THING I EVER DID WE WILL BE HAVING OUR 29TH ANN IIN MAY 2007 IF SHE KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS 18 IS NOT TOO YOUNG

Answer 2

The key factors are her personality and level of mental maturity. She may very well be ready for marriage, but she needs to think about what marriage means to her. It's very difficult in this day and age to get married young and stay with your partner. People are living longer and expect different things out of life.

Another pitfall is the time people give themselves to determine if they are suited for marriage. You never mention how long they have been together. Being 18 it couldn't have been too long.

Even if these foundational elements are in place, people need to be realistic and recognize that love alone isn't enough for a successful long term relationship. Other things people really need to consider before getting hitched.

1: Do they have compatible life goals? Kids, careers, lifestyle, ect...

2: Are they financially stable? This is probably the single most important factor to a successful relationship. Having troubled finances will cause a relationship that could work fail. For example: A friend of mine recently got married to someone they considered the love of their life. However, they didn't know this person has in excess of 100k in credit card debt without an income to match.

3: Do they like eachother as people? This means, if they weren't crazy in love with eachother would they be good friends?

In the end the institution of marriage means different things to different people. Some find it to be a temporary thing, others something sacred they should stick with for the long haul.

Depending on your point of view, I'd carefully consider these things. One piece of advice, regardless of the situation, do not consider having children until after 2 years of marriage. By this time, the couple will have a better idea if they have a future together.

Answer 3

I've been married since just after I turned 18. I'm 30 now and wish I wouldn't have done it. We're happy enough now, but there is so much I missed out on having to play wife. Now that I have seen more of the world and it's people I know he's not my Mr. Right. I wish I would have experienced life more even though I was "mature" at 18, you're never ready for what a marriage takes.

Answer 4

Personally I think it is very young. I don't know your friend however. I got married at 21 and divorced at 23. I was also very mature for my age. I'm 28 now, and just in the last couple years have learned the kind of communication and skills necessary to have a successful marriage, although I probably thought I had them back then. Many people get married that young and make it, but I feel that it is too young. What's the harm in waiting? If they are going to make it as a married couple, it won't matter if they wait.

Answer 5

Well how much older is he if more than 2 or 3 yrs i would say this is bad
o wait it is bad no one should get married at 18 she is going to change and grow so much and who knows what she is going to turn out like.
if it is really love than there is no problem staying boyfriend and girlfriend. waiting is always a plus.
my sister in law and her now husband have been together since she was 14 they are now both 25 and just got married. they waited until college was done. probably the best move for any one young thinking about marriage

Answer 6

If they love each other so much, why not wait? 18 is really the middle of the teenager to adult transition. It's important to make sure that her and her fiance make it through that transition smoothly. A lot of changing happens between 18 and the years after. The teen they are now, might differ from the adult they will become. They might make compatible kids, but not compatible adults. If they really love each other, then they should care enough about each other to not tie each other down this early on. They should want the other to be happy, even if that means without them. So even if she acts like she's 24..she's not. 18 is still very young. Live like you're married, just don't tie the not just yet.

Answer 7

If he would have asked I would have married my husband when I was 18. I think it's a good idea o live together atleast a year or two before making a huge commitment like that a a young age. I lived with my bf for two years before we got married, I was 18 when I moved in with him, and I don't regret it, as much as I thought I was ready for marriage I really wasn't. You wouldn't believe the difference two years makes in your maturity and personality. Best of wishes.

Answer 8

She's not too young. 50 years ago, age 18 was average. 24 would have been considered an old maid lesbian.

When puberty makes you fertile at 14, 18 is not too young.

But expect a bunch of people to come along and talk about getting a worthless college degree.

Answer 9

YES THATS WAY TOO YOUNG. I was a very mature 18 year old but I wasn't ready for marriage by any means. If I had gotten married at 18 and missed the fun-loving and free years of 18-21. I would kick myself in the butt everyday!!! If they are in love as much as you claim they can wait and just date until she is older. You change so much from the time you are 18 until you are 25 even. She may not even be the same person when she gets into her 20's. I strongly advise against it. Just because you are head over heels in love does not mean you have to get married. You need to date a while and grow up and grow together before you get married. You can be in love and not have to get married right away. I HIGHLY, HIGHLY advise waiting. Tell her to live life and have fun and not rush into being an adult and living a married life, it changes everything and even if she thinks she is ready for that she will regret doing it so young. They don't have to be apart. They can still date and wait to get married when she is older and wiser. Everyone needs to experience life after high school and life outside of your parents home for themselves first before they jump into a married home.

Answer 10

Well i think thats really up to her...and I dont think its anyone elses choose to say actually I was married at 17 :-O but probably with different circumstances but its been 4 years since and everything is still just as perfect aside from some minor disagreements...and ofcourse I got my share of tips and also "you should becareful bc it never works when you marry that young" or the "your just too young, it will never last" talks .so I guess when your ready and if your really that sure then you just KNOW....but if in any case she is too young then she will gain a learning experience..thats the way I see it lets say things do take a turn in the future with me and my husband then it was a good lesson....


Good luck to your friend!

Answer 11

I would wait a bit longer. I was married at a young age (19) and divorced at 25. I am not saying that this will happen to you but you have your young and wild crazy nights to do yet and your fiance has already done that and is looking for someone to settle down with. I speak from experience...........go out and experience a little of life first before you settle down!