Why is it so hard for married couples to love each other,like the older parents did.?

Answer 1

Ha, my wife and I demonstrate much more love and respect toward each other than my parents ever have. We have been married 20 years, and they've been married over 50.

Answer 2

I think some people's values have changed over the years. Back then you didn't have so much to worry about. People did have sex outside of marriage but not nearly as much as today. Nowadays people feel obligated to get married if the girl gets pregnant or something like that. Most of the older generation is dying now, and these are people who have been married 40+ years and today that seems outrageous because of the divorce rate. I really think people's values have changed and they don't see marriage the same way that the older parents do.

Answer 3

Because now we want the quick fix and don't wanna work out problems. In their time all things had to be worked for and on. There were no quick fixes, no microwaves, no tivo. So in a lot of ways progress has made us lazy and unwilling to work at anything that may seem to be hard or difficult. Forget getting an average guy and reaching the mountain top through hard work and struggle. Now they just find a man already at the mountain top and then they wonder why it doesn't last. We men are guilty of the same. We have all bought into the lie love is not enough.

Answer 4

Because of this day and age we live in. Back in the Older parents time, you had to go way out of your way for some decent porn, now you can get it on your phone. Back then, a station wagon was the family ride, now the woman hounds for the Escalade. This adds stress, I don't have 80g's for one of those.
Then don't get me started on shows like the Bachalor....
It is fake and no man is romantic like that, further more, what happens when the sho is over and leave the lovely Italian countryside? All that romance is gone. So both men and women now a days have different theories on what would make them more happy as a couple, and forgot that eachother, is what the relationship really needs.

Answer 5

The problem is that there is too much influence from the outside world. Both spouses working demanding jobs, children involved in 40+ hours of extra curricular activities and too many distractions in the house. We are told to believe that our spouses should look like Cindy Crawford/Brad Pitt, be as romantic as a Hallmark card, and completely overlook every flaw we have as individuals. My advice is turn off the tv/computer. Tell the kids there's no soccer practice tonight. Then spend a couple of hours just talking to your spouse. Pretend your on a first or second date trying to get to know them. You'd be surprised at the person you'll fall in love with. P.S. stop flirting with that person(s) online/at work/at the gym.

Answer 6

It is not. My husband and I have much more love and willingness to love each other than our parents had and most older couples we've met. Every relationship has a chance for great love, but not every person is able to allow love to flow because they are too selfish. So selfish they aren't even loving themselves which is why the aren't loving their spouse. The thing is that we like someone a lot and we like what they do for us and we have an idea that marriage sets it all in stone but that is all wrong. Most do not ever look for marriage based on if we can feel loving toward ourselves and this person can handle that or can this person be loving to themselves and I can handle that. I can love this person and they return my love with their own even if we have differences. He accepts my differences and does not feel like he has to change to accomodate me and I accept his differences and do not feel I need to change to accomodate him. We are comfortable with who we are as people and realize that it is despite our differences that when we choose to love and let love flow we are strongest! Challenges are there to give us a chance to see how strong our love is, not to pit us one against another. Too many couples are blind to this reality.

Answer 7

Life's a lot more complicated now.. and by the way.. I don't think things were as peachy as we thought they were for our parents. In general, we were a lot more sheltered from problems than our kids probably are.

On the other hand, as a married couple, my spouse and I do love each other deeply and it's very obvious to everyone around us...

Answer 8

You are living in a dream world!. Why do you think older parents were happily married? They just lived together, while on had power and the other just silentlt suffered. Back in those days, it was consdered taboo to divorce your spouse (especially for for a woman). A divorced woman was considered cheap and readily available for bodily pleasures.

Answer 9

well this is what my grandmother told me before i got married first never go to bed mad even if you want to and the other was from my dad who loved his second wife every much and was together 32 years before she died and that was talking to each other about everything and the other was respect from the other person .....he said they had some problems but they always worked it out because they did love each other so much and he let her be the person she was and she let him be who he was and made it work .so just love one another and respect one another and do alot of talking ...........i hope that helps good luck

Answer 10

It's not hard if you truly love your spouse. it's just now a days some people are to caught up with what everyone is doing instead of appreciating what they have @ home.