I think i have become old and bitter! I am polite to people and that is that. I have no real friends and i have shut my family out. I know the general consensus will be to seek mental help... I am not a mean person, but i do keep to myself. I do not want the world to hurt me any more. I would love advise on how to cope! Thank you.
2006-12-21 03:06:01 · 13 answers · asked by Gina E 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Your not bitter. I'm 35 and I feel just like you do. (I only have one close female friend, though) We're both introverts (or hermits, whatever you may call it) and we prefer our solitude to help strengthen ourselves. Nor do we want to feel burdened or made to feel guilty by extroverted family members who try to pressure you to stay in close contact with them. (My very religous Dad is always trying to convince me to be a part of a close family circle with my siblings, but I have nothing in common with any of them, including my Dad) I'm not afraid of the world, though. How did you become fearful? You didn't go into further detail.
2006-12-21 03:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by Daemon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a few experiences lately that have made me loose my faith in mankind. I guess you just have to realize that there is a lot of good in people too. People seem to have kind of a dual nature. I've always been suprised that a person can be a compassionate angel in one moment and a selfish beast moments later. I guess you have to have faith that there is some kind of justice in the world. Just spend some time with people and you'll see that they're not all bad. Maybe you should set a good example by being polite and friendly and everyone else will follow. Try helping out with some volunteer organization. Maybe help serve food to the homeless or something. Maybe both you and I should start working extra hard to make this world a better place.
2006-12-21 03:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Link 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By keeping faith with yourself. Don't prejudge or project preconceptions on yourself, as the world does. That's why people argue and fight with each other, especially in the media, as they cannot handle their own guilt when they do this and must blame someone else for it.
Life is what we make it. So live your own life regardless of what others say or do. Otherwise you won't have a life--it will be constantly manipulated, controlled and exploited by others. Don't allow them to have that power. You must realize your own worth and the person that you are, not someone else's version.
None of us is without our problems or negativity. So just look at that, exposing that to yourself, and consciously accepting this without any judgment, trust in your innermost Being--and Such will be your strength and your refuge and allow you to see through all of it--without projecting any guilt onto others.
See the world in you as it actually is and you will see through it--thus transforming yourself into a positive force. May the force (God) be with you.
2006-12-21 05:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My "faith in Mankind" comes from looking back and seeing the clearest evidence of just how far we have come, both in terms of our human understanding, and our technology. We cannot judge all Mankind based on the worst of us, but on the expanding percentage of the best of us. We aren't all the way down that road yet, we all know that. But we are ON that road. Most of us find it difficult to actually SEE our continued progress because our individual life spans are so short, while our human evolutionary process is very slow. It's like sitting there watching the hands of the clock move around the clockface, only worse, because you CAN see the whole clockface at one look, whereas you can NOT see all of humanity at a glance. People think the world and everything in it is a mess, because all that ever gets reported in the news are the bad things. In the News Media, bad news is "good news" - and real Good News is NO news, if you know what I mean. If we didn't have a constant stream of bad news, we wouldn't know anything bad was going on at all. It's the same thing with all of the good stuff that is going on constantly around this world - we think it isn't happening because nobody bothers to report it.
Well, good stuff IS going on, and humanity IS moving down a good road. But we can only see progress by looking at history, because our little time on this world personally isn't long enough for us to see it happening.
I don't know how old you are, but you certainly do sound depressed, and these days one of the best things to happen in our times is that we no longer look at depression as something to be embarrassed or ashamed about, any more than we would be ashamed of getting the flu, or something. And we can do something about it because of the wonderful progress that has been made in treating depression. I would absolutely urge you to see your doctor and explain your feelings. It is possible to overcome these negative emotions, and get back on the right track so that you can once again begin to enjoy the company of good people. There are plenty of them around, but if they don't know you are there, they can't connect with you. YOU have to get yourself to a state of mind where you can connect with them. I don't know what problems you have with your family, that you would want to shut them out, as you said. But there are a lot of support groups around these days, for elderly people.... people living alone......people who just want to meet other people. Just make up your mind to do something to get yourself back into, what I call the "life pool", and once you have made the first move, I assure you, there will be plenty of people ready to embrace and tell you to "come on in, the water's fine" lol
2006-12-21 04:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know with all the news, wars, and bad stuff you hear, it it not common to lose faith in mankind... It seems that we are always drawn to negativity..... But have you ever considered ignoring all this and look for positive actions that people do... Since these are always overlooked..... Try for a day to watch for good things we do and ignore the bad.... This is tough but you will be amazed at actually how simple actions of good can lift your spirits....
Young kids are great for this.... My 1 year old will often give me his cookie.... I take it and give it back and he say's "Thank You"...
2006-12-21 03:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by JohnS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, the people above wrote a lot of good advice and I do not think I will be able to top them. I'll keep it short and simple then, even if you "have no real friends" and "shut your family out" there are still others who can advise and give advice in all matters. You're welcome to respond/reply/answer/get in touch/contact me.
2006-12-21 04:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by WMD 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not about faith in mankind. We are all humans. You will hurt people deeply and be hurt deeply in this journey of life.
God created you, me, everyone and everything knowing this. HIs purpose in creating you specifically is to know you "specifically" . He knows all your deepest darkest secrets. He sees your biggest flaws. But yet He desires a relationship with you.
We all get down on friends and family at times. Change your perspective and purpose. If you live to glorify the Lord you will be amazed at the peace and contentment He provides.
2006-12-21 03:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by 2hpy4wds 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be ideal to God, that is now necessary for one to exercising faith in Jesus Christ, and this makes a chance a righteous status with God. (Ga 2:16) those lacking such faith are rejected with the help of Jehovah.—Joh 3:36; study Heb 11:6. faith isn't the possession of all persons, by way of the indisputable fact that is a fruit of God’s spirit. (2Th 3:2; Ga 5:22) And a Christian’s faith isn't static, besides the indisputable fact that it grows. (2Th a million:3) hence, the request of Jesus’ disciples, “supply us extra faith,” replaced into very ideal, and he did furnish them the start position for higher faith. He presented them with more beneficial data and information on which to base their faith.—Lu 17:5. the finished existence procedure a Christian is actual ruled with the help of religion, allowing him to conquer mountainlike hindrances which could ward off his service to God. (2Co 5:7; Mt 21:21, 22) also, there should be works in line with and in reveal of religion, yet works of the Mosaic regulation at the on the spot are not required. (Jas 2:21-26; Ro 3:20) Trials can develop faith. faith serves as a keeping take care of interior the Christian’s non secular conflict, helping him to conquer the devil and be a conqueror of the international.—1Pe a million:6, 7; Eph 6:16; 1Pe 5:9; 1Jo 5:4. yet faith won't be able to be targeted on no interest, because lack of religion is ‘the sin that so extremely entangles one.’ to maintain a company faith calls for putting up a difficult strive against for it, resisting adult males who ought to plunge one into immorality, suffering with the works of the flesh, keeping off the snare of materialism, shunning faith-destroying philosophies and traditions of adult males, and, particularly, searching “carefully on the manager Agent and Perfecter of our faith, Jesus.”—Heb 12:a million, 2; Jude 3, 4; Ga 5:19-21; 1Ti 6:9, 10; Col 2:8. the way
2016-12-01 01:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just a bad time, that's all. Take a person you find interesting, go to a BAR, have fun!!!!:) Start enjoying your life again, you only get it once! If you wanted to have a real friend, you would, but apparently, you subconsciously don't at this particular moment in time.
2006-12-21 03:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by v-tekkk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have learned is not to put my faith in people...they will always let you down. Instead I place my faith in the stability of the one who created me. This world can be hurtful and it is definately unstable. Place your faith in the stability of our Heavenly Father...He is unchanging, the same yesterday, today and forever. The only way to make it through this world is under His protecton and guidance. Find others who follow Jesus and see how Jesus can help you work through this and begin to enjoy life to the fullest...it is possible...it has happened for me and many others I know. We all felt as you do now, alone and tired of the way of the world . We need others for friendship and encouragement to help us maintain in this world...You just need to find the right friends to help you and so that you can also help them. Everyone has something to offer...and you will eventually be able to help those with similar life experiences conquer this thing once you overcome it yourself.
2006-12-21 03:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋