Why are there so many people trying to get pregnant when.....?

Question

... they are not married
... they are clearly not even ready to be parents
... they are not financially secure
... they dont own a home
... the world is overpopulated already (as warned by the United Nations some years ago)
... they already have a bunch of kids
... they intend to raise the kid in day care


for the record I had 1 kid at age 30 then had tubes tied

errrr.. I had my tubes tied because the United Nations warned that human overpopulation is the # 1 threat to our continued existance.. scientists predict that within 100 years if we dont act now they will have to control the population other ways INCLUDING killing off people who reach a certain age.. its not so much the birth rate that is the problem its that we are not dying off as young as we used to so the birth rate continues to add to the problem..
I was oldest of 4 and HATED it.. single kids NEVER feel they were unloved.. they know they are important and the "favorite"

Answer 1

Many young people today feel that a child will fill a need they have themselves. Instead of bringing another unwanted, uncared for baby into the world, these young people should be taught to value themselves and how to do this. Each person has something to be proud of, but most young people are made to feel worthless. This is due to the fact that the world is already so over populated, so many can't find good jobs to feel good about. There is always someone to "take over," therefore people are much more expendable than they used to be.
Zero population should be instituted again: one child per person - two per couple - zero population growth.
But, that too is a problem. People, and all animals, have an instinctual need to procreate.
Education and teaching self worth, I believe, could do more to alleviate this growing problem.

Answer 2

I was not married when I had my daughter at age 19. I didn't own a home. I was not financially secure. The world was and is still overpopulated but who can fix that? I didn't have any kids before her and I'm not raising her in a daycare.

I am 21 and I'm expecting my second with my fiance who is the father of my 17 month old daughter. We are buying a house. We are financially secure because I am a college student and I work in a law office. The world is still overpopulated. So I don't get why you're so bitter.

Having my daughter was the best thing that I've done. She made me focus and aspire to do more than I ever wanted to do. Some people don't get the opportunity to have kids so I'm glad that I was given that chance. I was young but I stepped up to the plate. Not everybody does. I'm sure you love your 1 child more than anything in the world but don't judge people or make assumptions about people. It's really sad.

Are you doing anything to stop the overpopulation of the world? Do you own a home? Are you married? Were you ready to become a parent? Were you financially secure? Did you or do you raise your child in a daycare? Are you passing out condoms at high schools and giving lectures?

Answer 3

I agree with the first one... not being married...... but does that include gay people too.... I think their committed relationships count as marriage.
Not ready to be parents-- VERY AGREEABLE--
Financially Secure-- agreeable-- but is there a set amount people should have before they start trying? I dont think so.
Own a home--- I disagree there are so many circumstances as to why people dont own a home-- some choose not too for so many reasons----
Over populated world-- I agree that it is over populated--- but i dont think its a reason to not have kids-- Did you know that more SINGLE Women NOT in relationships, had babies this year than any other group of women?
A bunch of kids--- so what, people have every right to have as many children as they can take care of.
Day Care--- no child should be raised in a day care-- but some times, more often than not both parents have to work to pay the bills, including a child-- I do how ever think that people should think about finances ahead of time so at least one parent doesnt have to work as much, allowing more time with the child.

We all have our reasons to not have a baby and to have a baby. And I think if your "TRYING" to have a baby, than you have put some thought into the whole thing, and that shows some responsibility that many lack.

But who are we to judge?

Answer 4

I don't know...if you're so danged focused on the overpopulation problem then what business did you have bringing ANY children into the world?

From the tone of your question you sound like a bitter, angry, and self-righteous person who, I'm sure, is a wonderful role model as a mother. Clearly you care about the state of the planet; that's great, and I hope you're teaching that to your child because truly, we need more of that in the world. But please do your child and everyone else a favor, and let your child learn her/his lessons on things like empathy, compassion, and open-mindedness from someone else.

Answer 5

Im wondering the same thing. I have a friend whos not married, or even close to it her and her boyfriend are constantly fighting and breaking up. Shes very imature for her age. But she wants a baby. I just dont get it.

Answer 6

You sound like a snobby liberal who thinks that they are better than everyone else because of the choices they make. Good for you, you had your tubes tied and only had one, are you asking this question because you now regret this and are jeaolous that other people are trying and you cant.? This question doesn't make sense, it is just offensive. You can not possibly expect to get any intelligent, rational answers when your question puts everyone who reads it on the defensive. Grow up, live and let live.

Answer 7

Some people like myself, don't "try," to have a child when they are unmarried, not a homeowner, etc. It just happens. Obviously if youhave sex you are taking a risk. Even if you were on birth control, as in my case, you are taking a risk. Furthermore, some people like myself don't believe in abortion so what do you do? You get your crap together and do what needs to be done to be a good parent.

Answer 8

People want to have kids because they want to have a child/children of their own.. And also I think that you are just mad/hurt that you didnt get any attention when you were a kid because the younger children in your family got all the attention...

Answer 9

Some would say that getting your tubes tied after one child is unfair to your child in which was really your personal decision. Everyone is pregnant for their own personal decisions and unfortunately some don't plan on it, literally.

Answer 10

I am trying to get pregnant because.....
...I am married
...I am ready to be a parent
...I hold a full time job and so does my husband
...we own our own home
...I don't have any kids
...Intend to raise baby by husband and I