How do I deal with the repercussions?
2006-12-21 03:04:34 · 11 answers · asked by nachomanhulk 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I feel that I was working more for the friendship than they were, as they took advantage.
2006-12-21 03:07:01 · update #1
I am not cutting them off because I want to be all alone. I am normally quite a social person.But they are selfish.
2006-12-21 03:14:38 · update #2
As you say this was a hard decision, therefore you have obviously given it a lot of thought. You are now in the position you wanted to be in therefore you should be happy and confident with your decision and any repercussions, whatever they may be should not be worried over. A lot of people take far more than you can give in friendships therefore take no notice of any nastiness transpiring from your decision.
2006-12-21 23:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a strong belief that any relationship has a 'cut off' point. Depending on the person and the depth of your relationship you are more inclined to 'take more.' Yes people say a friendship is forever and other such cliches, but there are some situations where you are being taken for a mug and to carry on regardless is going to seriously damage your mental health and well being! As for dealing with repercussions I take it you have thought about your actions and realised this was a likely consequence of taking what you believed to be the right steps. Then you have to deal with them head on, safe in the knowledge you have made the right, if hard, decision for you. Sometimes that's the way life works out. Stay strong and try to move on, it's all you can do!
2006-12-21 13:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What repercussions are you expecting?
I always think its a bad idea to cut anyone off... because usually the whole act of deliberating cutting someone off is because you care about the situation... and you still have some kind of attachment to them, which you need closure on.
The best way is to gently phase them out....easier to stick with and more of a natural progression....
2006-12-21 11:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by mz_recruiter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remind yourself of why you cut them off, was it for a good reason? if so, then you move on,,, and there shouldnt be any repercussions really,,, if you mean them being upset,,,,, then explain your reasons,,,,,,
ps: they can only take the advantage that you allow them to take,,,,,, so now that you realize both their actions and your own,,, just explain this to them,,,, give them a chance to recognize what you are saying, maybe they were not aware they were doing it,,,,,,,, then you both can make a decision if the friendship is something you wish to continue, under new terms/rules
2006-12-21 11:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say,don't cut the people off, Just don't be taken advantage of. Be honest with them, tell them what you feel.
You must have seen something in them (if they were in your social circle).
I have friends that I have had for 20 years, Would some take advantage of me? ...Sure, (if I let them).
There are boundaries in every friendship.
2006-12-21 12:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What repercussions do you think you will get? Once we know these we might be able to help you
2006-12-21 23:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of repercussions are you talking about? i'm not sure i understand.
2006-12-21 11:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends aren't good for you then you don't need them. You gots to let some people go.
2006-12-21 11:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand by your actions, you obviously had good reasons for doing this.
2006-12-21 11:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by ROBSTER 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What sort of circumstance would make you want to cut people off.Do you have leprosy??
2006-12-21 11:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by bastaad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋