Anyone ever done this?I am two weeks pregnant and engaged and not told family yet only my fiance.He wants to move the wedding day up to March because of this is this a bad idea?I kind of get the feeling he is embarrassed of the situation.?He seems to be worried hat people will think particularly family members.
2006-12-21 03:04:25 · 17 answers · asked by Jessica W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was given a blood test after passing out at work thats how i found out i was pregnant.And my fiance and i were engaged in september before i got pregnant.
2006-12-21 03:05:22 · update #1
I asked him if we could wait till after the birth and he freaked !
2006-12-21 03:09:59 · update #2
I got married at 14 weeks pregnant, The problem then is that everyone thinks you are getting married just coz you are pregnant (me and my husband were together for 7 years before, adn were planning the wedding since before we got pregnant. I really enjoyed the weding, but the extra stress wasnt good. Talk to your husband and see why he wants to move it up, and if its just coz of the pregnancy, then dont. Clearly you love each other and you dont need the hassle of organising a quick wedding
2006-12-21 03:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two need to talk more, and perhaps now is the time to get some premarital counseling. You are engaged and having a child and in the long run it's not going to matter when you get married. Just talk, and don't rush a decision. You'll surely come to a compromise.
Some things to keep in mind are that wedding dress fitters and makers are GENIUSES at hiding baby bumps - they do it way more than you'd think. My sister in law was 51/2 months when she got hitched and because of the dresses fit and style, you really couldn't tell.
Another thing to consider is that the whole family knows you're engaged, and probably knows the wedding date, etc. I'm assuming you'll wait awhile to announce the pregnancy to them. By the the time they find out you're pregnant I don't think anyone would be judgemental because it would be obvious that the plans to get married were made WAY before the baby was.
Either way, things will work out fine. You and your fiancee just need some time to adjust to the change in plans.
2006-12-21 16:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was 2 months Pregnant when she walked down the isle, her grandma wouldn't let her wear a white dress, so she chose cream.
My mother-in-law was 2 months a long as well.
It's normal to worry about others opinions, but in the end, they really don't matter. You are in a committed Loving relationship. Do the math on some family member and you'd be suprised.
The only way I can see a problem with the wedding date is if it was around your due date. don't want to go into labor the same day.
2006-12-21 11:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by sheldwyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are always going to talk, dont let that affect you, you are only 2 weeks nobody is going to even notice you are pregnant. I was 7 months when I got married. You didnt do anything wrong so you shouldnt be embarrased, now its all about you and the baby dont worry about other people and get married when YOU want to.
If he did that them you should consider just getting married in court and having the celebration or church wedding after. Only the two of you have to go with a witness
2006-12-21 11:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen i got married and i was 3 months pregnant....i was w/ my now husband for 3 years and we had been talking about marriage but just had not announced it yet. when we finally told everyone we were pregnant and decided to get married it was nothing but a hassle. one when you are pregnant not matter how early you emotions are running wild, which makes it alot harder to plan a wedding. if i could do it again i would have waited till after the baby so i could have the wedding just the way i wanted it not rushed. but if you have everything planned...go for it dont worry about walking down the isle pregnant bc even w/ a belly you still feel like a princess!
2006-12-21 11:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by hhudson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to be ashamed so you should do what you want. I don't think pregnancy should make you bump your date up but I wouldn't feel the need to wait til after the baby was born if I didn't want to or out of embarrassment. You seem to have an even temper on things and seem calm about bringing a life into this world so tell your hubby to be to calm down and we have already made this decision to be here and do what you want you'll always remember your wedding so do everything you want to do and not because of time!
2006-12-21 16:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Annabelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people might not think its bad and will say it is OK, but for me to sit and watch someone walk down the aisle pregnant will be a little funny if they decided to wear white. There is also lots of family members who like to talk cheese, so there will be allot of discussion on why you got married.
My sugestion is move it up before you start to show.
2006-12-21 11:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he so worried about it? Lots of people have babies not married, it's not that big of a deal anymore. Plus point out that anyone who can count will be able to figure out you were pregnant before the wedding. I would either do it right away before you get too big, or wait until after.
2006-12-21 11:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by tabithap 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry he feels that way. Some people are really old fashioned. My 3 yr. old was the "best man" when his daddy and I got married:) He actually did stay up there for a good while, too, before he took off to his grandpa-lol! Everyone loved my wedding and thought it was just precious, including all of my hubby's Christian relatives:) Things happen! And tell your soon to be husband that if he feels embarrassed of the situation for religious beliefs or just because, then he should've been embarrassed to have sex before the wedding.
2006-12-21 11:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dolphin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess in this situation you should move up your wedding date. I would do it as soon as possible, as you will want to do it before you start to show. Every woman and every pregnancy is different, so you could show as early as 8 weeks and almost definately by 12 weeks, depending on your current size. Besides, how many times do you really want to have your beautiful wedding gown let out.
Congratulations, Momma!
2006-12-21 11:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by jlowe06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋