I am now 25, I know have 3 beautiful children. Some people tell me that I have missed a big part of my life getting married so young. I love my kids and my husband very much. But sometimes wonder what life would be like if I didn't get married so young. Do you think they are right about me missing out on things a normal 18 - 25 year old does??
2006-12-21 02:58:35 · 53 answers · asked by Jody Lynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
whatever suits you, I think, if you're happy - then you haven't missed anything
my sister has been with her girlfriend since she was 17 and she never ever thinks that she's missed something, she is 28 and she is very happy
2006-12-21 03:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Yulia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't really say as l also got married at 19 and had 3 children by the time l was 25. I don't feel l have missed out on anything though. The good thing about having your children young is that you are still young enough to go out and have fun with your husband and your friends when they are old enough to stay at home on their own. And think about it when you are going out those people you talk about will then be stuck at home with babies. So NO l guess we haven't really missed out on anything have we ?? As long as you have the love of a good husband and wonderful children, what more do you need !!
2006-12-21 03:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 20, I am now 33 and things havent always been great but I couldn't imagine my life without my husband and 3 kids. If your happy and fulfilled then what is it that you think you may be missing? I see younger people dating and having problems finding the right guy and often hear from younger people that they are jealous that I found someone that loves me like my husband does and how they wish they had that. So I really dont feel that I'm missing or missed anything. Sit back and take a look at your life now and I'm sure you will agree that there is nothing out there that you are really missing.
2006-12-21 03:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents got married when they were 16 and 17 years old, they waited 11 years to have any children. People say that they missed a big part of their life by getting married so young, but they had fun together. They still did what they wanted to, they just did it together. And i know this may sound harsh, but its in the past so don't sit around and mope about it. You can't change what's already been done. And don't listen to other people, if in your heart you think you did the right thing [which it sounds like you are very happy] then don't let it bother you.
2006-12-21 03:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by gmsgal25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you really aren't missing out on much, all that people are doing between those ages is alot of drinking, drugging and promiscuity. there are the times in between when you can travel and do things, but you can do all those things with your family. there are a lot of single 18-25 year olds who wish they had what you've got, a family that loves you. you have probably saved yourself from a lot of the problems that woman are faced with who have chosen alternative paths in life such as addictions to substances illegal, and legal, unwanted pregnancies, STDs, and cheating men and the games they play to name a few. Be happy with what you have and where you are, there is nothing but trouble out in the world that you find yourself wondering about. don't dwell on the what ifs, look at what is and what will be. You have been blessed with 3 beautiful babies and a husband to care for you all. you are just as normal as the next person and probably with a better state of mind and clearer head. there are so many fatherless, husbandless woman and children in the world, there are also men who don't and won't claim the children they helped create. Focus on what you have, not what you could have had, that's the past. You are living the fairy tale dream many woman will only dream and that's a blessing in it's self. All the best.
2006-12-21 03:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way u missed out on life of fun and games through ages 18-25. But who's to tell u when to get married. I think if you are happy now and is loving your life as it is, you shouldn't be worrying about the life you could have had, but focus on the life that you already have and the life that is emerging for you, your husband and beautiful kids. Enjoy what you have already,(don't mourn over the stuff you could have had, just be grateful for what you got in store for you now.)
2006-12-21 03:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by forever T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I got married 2 months before my 21st birthday. I'm 22 now and have a beautiful 3 month old son. I've wondered if I've missed out on things too. I took 3 semesters of college and then dropped out for a semester and got married instead of going back. I miss it so much. I wouldn't change having gotten married, because I love my husband and our son. It's like that Reba McEntire song, "Is there life out there?"
I think the saying "the grass is always greener on the other side" is true. You always wish you could try both senerios to see which one fits better. I think if you're happy in your marriage and being a mother that's all that matters. Both are a blessing.
2006-12-21 03:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you missed out on somethings, but look at it this way; you have a good husband that you love, and he loves you, and 3 beautiful healthy children. This may not have happen had you choose a different path.
I am 30, wife 31. 3 kids 11, 10, 1 1/2yrs.
I was 18, she was 19 when we got married. But you know what?? I would trade this in for anything.
2006-12-21 03:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't missed out on anything this world has to offer. You have a good husband and a beautiful family. I'm married as well and thoughts do come, what if this..., and what if that.... But the most important thing that my wife and I have is a relationship with Jesus Christ (which He gives us joy & peace and fills that void in our hearts). Have u ever heard of the saying 2 is better that 1? When a couple in marriage works together as a team and learn how to grow together it would equal out much better than if we were single and never married. Maybe for some people...
2006-12-21 03:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by DJones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I got married. I have one beautiful daughter. I am since divorced though at 25. There are no regrets with my divorce. The were circumstances that warranted it necessary. I don't think you missed a thing. If you would have waited to have 3 kids starting when you were 25, you'd be alot older when it will matter to them. I'm sure from time to time you arranged for a sitter and when out with your husband. So truly you have the best of both world.
2006-12-21 03:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by blevins2147 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not think so b/c you are lucky to have found love and be able to have children. Any person can go out and party and date around and feel "free" from rules and regulations. Very few people know love when they find it and you just happened to find it at a younger age. Also think back about 50-60 years ago and look how young people where when they got married and now they have been together for over 60 years. Look at the age now and compare it with our nations divorce age. To each their own!!! Congrats on the family!! I think life only gets better as we get older and I am only 21!
2006-12-21 03:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by lizzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋