There is this guy "Mike" that I met at work. We were really flirty and clicked very well. He was fired, disappeared, reappeared and we began hanging out A LOT. I got into a car accident and my best friend drove me around. He hung out with us together twice and then started telling me I was playing games with him and talking dirty to her about how he fantasized about us messing around with him. Now they're dating and the more I hear about the way he treats her, I tell her how she deserves better and that she needs a new man. This is her first relationship EVER. She's 19. She likes him for the trinkets, dislikes everything else about him. But because it took her 19 years to get a boyfriend, she's afraid that if they break up that she will be alone for years. Her sister doesn't like "Mike", her mom thinks there is something that he's hiding that is potentially bad, and I keep reminding her what happened between the 3 of us. I can't seem to make her realize that he needs to go.
2006-12-21 02:43:52 · 6 answers · asked by TJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is tricky as some women can be fickle. If you tell her and she doesn't believe you, she will accuse you of trying to steal her man. If you don't tell her and she gets hurt, then she will ask why didn't you tell me. I would think about this problem at great length and then proceed with caution. Good luck.
2006-12-21 03:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by DeCaying_Roses 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, it sounds like she's willing to settle for Mike over being alone. Sadly she needs to come to her own conclusions, and she may even be getting so used to hearing how bad he is that it's not sinking in anymore. She needs to realise that dating a scumbag is certainly not better than being alone.
My relationship with my ex was not ideal - he was a very nice guy but we argued lots and I occasionally got the impression he needed me more as a security blanket than a girlfriend. For me, it took looking at other people's relationships (why were they happier than me?), and realising that I was not really happy with the relationship. After we split up, I felt a new lease of life being single! you might be able to persuade her by being subtle - reaffirming who *she* is, why she's great and doesn't need him!
2006-12-21 02:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Helen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't picked up on it by now then she is either just keeping him around for the goodies she gets or she is hooked and won't listen to anything bad about this guy untill she realizes herself that she is being burned.
Sometimes you have to be burned yourself before you belive fire is hot.
2006-12-21 02:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may be a hard undertaking...yet quite...theres no longer something you're able to do. espeically if she is as wrapped around him as you're saying. you may attempt basically chatting together with her and telling her what you have considered and tell her that she is greater suitable off without him...however the otherside of it relatively is that if she IS wrapped around him that lots, theres a huge gamble that it ought to have a detrimental result on you. she ought to get mad at you for telling her issues she doesnt opt to hearken to. basically be warned that in case you refer to her that should take place
2016-10-15 09:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT KNOn couse i have a friend that has the same problem n she wont listin 2 me @ all i guess keep trying 2 brek them up thats what ima doing....
2006-12-21 02:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy kimkim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to mind your own business and let your friend make her own decision. It is obvious you still like him and are jealous of him and your friend, move on already.
2006-12-21 02:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋