he says hat its only a fantacy...but i know he is turned on very much....does many males pose this fetish or what eva it is called...
i wanna speak with some males or females who faced this situation....my yahoo id is jessy_reeds@yahoo.com
2006-12-21 02:14:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u can email me any time thru yahoo answers medium of email. we can chat and share experiences with each other
2006-12-21 02:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuckoldery is generally the correct term if he's submissive... otherwise, I think the term for NON-bdsm female-only-nonmonogamy (where the woman is the ONLY partner who swings) is called hotwivery (making you the "hotwife").
It's very common. I read somewhere that it is the MOST common fetish in men who are married more than 5 years and who are over the age of 35 (beating out even foot fetish, apparently).
My boyfriend has these fantasies, too... but it's taking us time to work up to them. As much as I love men, dating, etc... it can be alot of performance pressure on the woman (and that turns me off!)!
What is hardest, actually, is finding anyone who "gets" it- because there are SO many guys who would love to be the "third person" but just ultimately have no respect and are after no-strings-attached-sexual-gratification (they're greedy). I could get on my soapbox about that :-)
Feel free to email me...
2006-12-23 21:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen put things in perspective. We all have our little quirks when it comes to attraction or what turns us on. It is childish to say to someone that what turns them on is bad especially if it doesn't break any laws. You have to see if this is something that is comfortable for you or not. It's not just about your husband but you as well. If two consenting adults agree on a course of action there is nothing wrong with it but only if they both agree. If it is not your cup of tea just tell him you want to please him but that this would be difficult for you to do and as a result he would not be satisfied with the results because of it. Remember you husband is not weird, childish, stupid, or anything of the like he is just a man expressing his desires. Don't punish him for his openness.
Oh, and I don't see it as a fetish but more of a fantasy type turn on. Hell, I am turned on by Asian women. I know, I know they don't have booty but it's just something about them. LOL!
Hope that helped
2006-12-21 10:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I noticed that most of your questions deal with this swinging lifestyle. If the both of you are committed to eachother and feel that this maybe something you two can enjoy, than, no harm no foul. Just remember that you are his wife, and he, your husband. Before entering this exploration, the two of you need to set some bounderies, as to what is OK and what is off limits.
Good luck-
2006-12-21 11:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes very normal and can be fun. I like to do it with my girlfriend. Not to allow her to actually have sex though, but we'll go into a club or bar separately and sit apart. I watch as she flirts and gets free drinks and stuff. We enjoy that. It makes her feel wanted and sexy, and reminds me what a great catch she is.
All in all, we both enjoy and get turned on...has made our relationship stronger to share our "naughty little secret."
2006-12-21 10:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are your hubby is a cuckold like me. It's an amazing rush for the man watching another man not only show interest but take it a step farther. if you want to know more socalcyclist1@yahoo.com
2014-02-10 15:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessy,
I am a married male who loves seeing his wife with another male. I love watching her face when she is making love with another man or women for that matter. Yes I join in, but I like to sit and watch sometimes before joining in. It is a very erotic picture. She to loves watching another woman perform oral sex on me. She says it is a turn on watching my facial expressions. She knows just when I am about to, you know:)
If you decide to fulfill the fantasy, make certain either of you are not the jealous type. Jealousy will crush and ruin the moment and your marriage or relationship. You must separate sex and love. If you do try it, you are doing so for the sex. Purely the sex.
Take Care.
Gator
2006-12-21 10:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by Officer H 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your husband needs to grow up! He's wanting you to do something that will harm your relationship with him in the long run. I wonder if next he will want to flirt with women to try and turn you on. Hmmmmm...... Let him find a better way to get turned on.
2006-12-21 10:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Penthouse Forum magazines are chock-full of these stories all the time now, so I guess it's a pretty popular "fetish".
Go to alt.com and you'll find loads of info and friends to talk to.
2006-12-21 10:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by LisaFlorida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you entertain his fetish? If it is harmless flirting then flirt a little bit and go hom and f' his brains out...
2006-12-21 10:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tedo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋