and he had been married for 3 years and wanted to tell his wife, and you love your best friend and his wife, what do you do? let him tell her, or should i kind of hint around to her? What if she comes to me for comfort and we end up falling for each other? I am in quite the predicament
2006-12-21 02:07:41 · 22 answers · asked by Brian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
let him figure it out, hes the queer
2006-12-21 02:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by batts1030 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give him some time to tell her. At least he's finally admitting it. If you end up falling for each other I don't think he would mind since obviously she's "not his type". It's not fair for him to keep stringing her along for long though since he finally realized it isn't what he wants. She may know more than you think she does too. Unless he's a pretty good actor and liar she must suspect something is wrong. She may be think he's having an affair with another woman and that's why they aren't so "lovey dovey" lately. Talk to him and see when he is gonna say something to her. She may feel embarrassed to discuss this issue with you too even when he does tell her. After a short while, I would hint around for her to talk to you about "what is bothereing her" and see what she tells you. Tell your friend to let you know when he tells her and what her reaction is/was. Ask him if he needs you to help tell her in some way. these are some suggestions. Hope they help.
2006-12-21 10:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would strongly encourage him to come clean about his thoughts and feelings. The truth will always and I mean always come out in the end. So encourage him to be honest with his wife, b/c he does owe that to her as her husband. Be there to support, but outside of support you should probably let them deal with it.
If you fear a relationship developing between his wife and you keep yourself at a total friends' stance. Don't give even a hint that you two could be something more. Women can detect that very easily. And if you feel something more grow out of it with time then you can go from there.
2006-12-21 10:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by amanda w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that your friend should handle. Unless you are a marriage counselor, I would recommend you let them work out things between themselves before you say anything. Since you care very much about them both, it will be hard, but remember they are both adults and it is up to your friend to initiate this. If you do intervene, no matter how good your intentions, things will not turn in your favor as one party is certain to be upset you broke the ice. You should encourage your friend to seek professional help working this out with his wife and just lend them both your loving support as much as you can.
2006-12-21 10:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now some times its hard to be the goalie, or venting friend but to be honest if he cant do it himself then you shoulc be there with him to help explain it to his wife.
friends are friends and if he trust you enough to tell you this then you must help him out, but only to a cirtain extent, you dont want to be the bearer of faulty actions.
and if his wife comes to you for comfort then give her comfort but make it clear your only there for her as a friend, it may be hard but you got to do it, you got to be the voice of reason between to 3 of you.and if that dont work then back away for a bit
2006-12-21 12:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend's marriage is not your affair (and I mean that both ways).
1) You don't tell her. Not your business.
2) You leave her alone, despite your unadmitted attraction to her.
Be supportive of your friend and stay away from his wife.
2006-12-21 10:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
none of your business, u will just end up hurting someone, and the fact that you know has already put you in a loose loose situation (i think she wont come to u for comfort since you have been keeping this secret from her). good luck.
2006-12-21 10:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by hasanyoneseenmyshoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your friend to tell his wife dont tell her he should be the 1 to tell her.
2006-12-21 10:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by Riyonna D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in any predicament as you are not the person to be telling anyone.
When the time is right he will come out so please do the right thing and do nothing
2006-12-21 10:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it. don't comment on it unless your best friends specifically asks you for advice. if not just listen to your best friend and just be there for him. if he asks you if he should tell his wife give your honest opinion but don't tell her yourself.
2006-12-21 10:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Annie Rod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there to listen, but don't offer to get actively involved. That's for them to do; for him to tell, for the two of them to decide what to do next.
2006-12-21 10:16:23 · answer #11 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋