I'm crushing Bigtime on this guy, but I don't think he likes me back. He confided in another friend, and told him that we could never be together. My friend then told me what he said.
Should I forget about him?Or not give up?
Please help me, I'm so confused. When I heard the news, I immediately broke into tears..I really liked him. But what should I do, now that I know he doesn't like me back?
2006-12-21 02:05:38 · 19 answers · asked by Jayden 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
find someone that wants to be together and willing to work at it. dont waste ur effort on someone that doesnt want to be with u from the beginning (or before it even gets started)
2006-12-21 02:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, ask him yourself. See if he is interested and get the answer from the "horse's mouth." If he tells you that he's not interested in you, believe him and move on.
This happened to me when I was in high school and I had this big crush on a guy. I asked a person (who I though was my friend at the time) to ask him if he liked me. The report I got back devastated me, but later, I discovered that my "friend" was really a gay jealous person who didn't want to see me with him.
Maybe I lost out on something that could have been beautiful, and maybe I didn't, but be woman enough to approach him (non-confrontational) and ask him out. Wait for a reaction, if he even hesitates, say "you know what, never mind, I though I would like you but I just realized that I don't." Move on honey.
2006-12-21 10:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Si S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably have two options, the first is to move on....simply, you shouldn't waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate you or like you, you could find a great guy out there who thinks you are wonderful!! But, if you really can't forget this one, then it does seem that people always want what they can't have...so you could pretend not to like him any more - so if he thinks you are no longer interested perhaps he will rise to the challenge and pursue you instead....it might be worth at try, but I am sure there is someone out there for you better than him! :-)
2006-12-21 10:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by HC123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never believe hearsay. The reason is because although your friend is probably telling you the truth, you will never feel resolved unless you hear it from your crush. I suggest getting a little brave and just letting your crush know how you feel. It sucks to get rejected, but at least this way you'll have closure if he turns you down. Your crush on this guy is so huge isn't it worth letting him know yourself and hearing it from him?
2006-12-21 10:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should say to him that i can find a beter man than you and i didnt like you from the start and look arond it doesnt matter about the looks but the personaltiy there is plentey more guys out there and you will find some one beacue 80% of the world has a boyfreind or married or has a hudge crush .where is your heart content!
from la
2006-12-21 10:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by rihanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on and don't worry about it so much, who knows....destiny might be keeping you free for someone better than that. He's probably not going to change his mind by talking to him or becoming his friend, but these are good starts, also.
2006-12-21 10:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky that the guy was mature enough and moral enough to let you know before you embarassed yourself or before he took advantage of your crush.
Now take care of yourself. Are there areas of your life that need improvement? Of course! Get into strenuous exercise to take your mind of this.
Find someone who needs help and help them. It can be as simple as helping an elderly person clean their house.
2006-12-21 10:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to find out who he DOES like, then change yourself to become just like that person. Dress like her. Wear your hair like her. Try to make friends with her friends. Use the same shampoo, perfume, and makeup as her. Then he will like you.
Just kidding. It'll be hard, but you should move on.
2006-12-21 10:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by monkeymonkey143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was never LOVE. It was a crush. Don't waste your time on someone who is not interested. Move on. You will be glad you did.
2006-12-21 10:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he really say that you two cant be together, then its time for you to move on with your life. im sure you will find someone who will truly love you and would like to be with you.
2006-12-21 10:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋