What do you think of relationships that start as affairs?

Question

Can you ever really trust each other? What does that lack of trust do to your relationship?

Answer 1

I don't think much of them. It says the people involved don't have much character. Neither of them value marriage very much, so why did either of them get married? And why should they have any expectations of someone else honoring a marriage with THEM?

What comes around goes around...

Answer 2

I don't think that you can ever fully trust the other person, because there would also be the thought in the back of your mind that he or she cheated w/you, what makes me think they won't cheat on me. Lack of trust can destroy any relationship, I don't believe that relationships that start out this way are doomed to fail, example: My uncle and his current wife started out as an affair and they have been married for about 15 yrs (I think, may be off by a yr or 2). Its just a matter of how much you actually love each other and how much work you put in to making the relationship work.

Answer 3

My current relationship started out as an affair. He found out his wife was cheating and had been for years, so he was already leaving. Our timing was just off a little. We're getting married in January. While there are trust issues, we love each other enough that we can work through it.

Answer 4

Although I know people who are happily married with people that they cheated on their former significant other before, it often doesn't work out well to start a relationship by doing something bad, because your partner may realize "hey, wait, he/she cheated on his/her last spouse to be with me, will he/she then do that to me at some point?" Then again, a woman I know realized that she wasn't right for her husband, and started seeing another man who was in the same situation with his wife, and they had an affair and left their spouses to be together, and are now happily married 10 years, and I know few couples that are as good for each other as they are. That doesn't excuse what they did 11+ years ago, but I guess it shows that the answer to your question depends on the situation, because other people who cheated ended up alone or just not very happy.

Answer 5

I know a couple who started out as an affair, and they are still together and very much in love after 15 years. But, they are not te "norm" by any means. Most times people who started out cheating with each other will most likely end up cheating ON each other, and the relationship will fall apart. You both have proof that you're both cheaters!

Answer 6

First of all you need to look at what caused you to to go into the relationship. In my case I met my current wife, had an affair and found their was more to life than getting laid once a month wether I needed it or not. What it boiled down to was after 16 years of marriage I loved my x wife as a sister/friend kind of relationship-not a wife. We (the x) are still friends and my current wife(the relationship) have been together for 23 years, married for 17 still together. We are secure in our marriage so their is no lack of trust. If there was then we certainly would not be in the lifestyle.
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Answer 7

You know-it all depends on why it started as an affair to begin with. Some end up working out wonderfully forever and some don't. You have to look at the situation as to why the affair took place and the circumstances surrounding the individuals involved. Could be--it just wasn't meant to be and two people got together who were meant to be--who really knows--there are many reasons--some affairs are just what they are--affairs--here today and gone tomorrow.

Answer 8

I'd bet 5-10%.

There are success stories. I knew someone who was 50. The relationship with her husband began as an affair when she was 15 and he was 25. By the way, his first marriage had no children.
35 years later they are married and had four children and are happy as anything.
I won't justify this one. I mean, I'm glad things worked out but this is a gross exception to how these things normally work out.

Answer 9

don't believe u can ever trust a relationship that began with someone cheating on someone else, as it shows that persons true character. if they can cheat on her they are going to cheat on u when problems come, as they did to her when there were problems. lack of trust will eventually be the end of a relationship, as it is trust that actually holds it together.

Answer 10

the previous saying is what is going around comes around. All relationships would desire to have a sturdy commencing up in the event that they have the slights possibility to artwork. If one guy or woman began the dating as an affair they are extra probably have yet another one, as they are of course no longer believe worth. yet undergo in ideas there are consistently different clarification why a guy or woman would have an affair. i does no longer sense threatened approximately my companion spending time with their ex if my dating became equipped on a sturdy initiate and each thing between my companion and their ex is finalised on the two factors different than the youngsters as they'll consistently would desire to be in touch with one yet another because of the youngsters.

Answer 11

Relationships that have begun as an affair have no merit what-so-ever.
Both of you know that the other has the ability to cover-up and be very decietful and possibly has a very good chance of getting away with things they do.