These are the types of e-mails that I receive from my ex-husband. I don't know what to think.
In my mind, they are projection because he is saying all of the things that he does wrong are my fault. He routinely comes home late and leaves the child alone for hours on end.
You have NO idea of the amount of damage you have caused the child.
I will NOT let you just walk away and do other selfish things. You will NEVER be happy. (He found out that I was thinking of moving on and getting resettled.)
Today the child was crying...
I wish I was never born. My best gift is if I die. I am a neglected child...for whom nobody cares...
A selfish person like you does NOT deserve a child....Only money is important for you and your family....
You are a enemy of the house... and the child...
I feel sad because of the situation. The child does not want to move to live with me. I live in another state.
What is the best response to this other than feeling bad?
2006-12-21 01:57:17 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has custody of the child, but expects me to come and live with them to help him out. He has left me a voicemail that he has left the child alone because he was not happy with the way she was handling things.
I have asked him repeatedly to send her to me. This is the response that I receive.
He was abusive and controlling during the marriage. He is pushing me to come back and live with them or visit over the holidays to see if we can be together as a family and probably help him pack up and move.
2006-12-21 02:24:06 · update #1
Please forgive me for being blunt, but who cares what he's projecting on you? He's just being a jerk! Plain and simple! Was he verbally and emotionally abusive when you were together? He sounds like the type of person who is trying to control you by beating you down. However, I do not know him or you. Why is he calling you selfish? Am I correct in reading from your post that HE has custody of your child? It seems to me that child custody is usually given to the mother, unless there is some reason that it would be better for the child to be with the father. I don't think anyone can really answer your question. There are not enough details and it seems that there is probably a lot that you have not told us about this situation.
2006-12-21 02:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by AK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm... I don't think I understand what's going on. He's writing you about all the stuff he's doing, yet he's trying to word it to make you think that it's you and not him? What a mind #$%^. If you're living togeather, get out, get far, get away!!!! you don't need that kind of stuff in your life, or the childs life. E-mail him back, be polite about it and simply respond with " I don't care to hear from you anymore, please stop contacting me." He maybe trying to make some sort of paper trail by e-mail with the false complaints and he may try to take the child from you. File a complaint with your local police department where ever something happens that endangers the child. good luck.
2006-12-21 02:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by phe_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has some pretty significant anger issues and is not able to deal with them. It is always easier to blame others rather than face one's self. Block his address from your email, tell him you are sorry he is so angry, but you do not have to deal with his issues since you are no longer his wife. DO NOT let him put your child in the middle.
2006-12-21 02:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by schoolot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd send him one email and only one. It would read: "BITE ME"
2006-12-21 02:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋