i moved to te Uk the same time as some of my friends from back home. theres a site where people keep in touch and put up pictures of themseleves. when i see my friends with their new friends i fell jealous because blended in easily. they go out and have loads and loads of friends but i hardly go out with friends.
i hang out with them at school - they are really nice but how do i get them to go out with me outside of school to the pictures or something? how do i stop being jealous of my old friends?
2006-12-21 01:54:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Heh, I know the feeling. It's difficult when you're struggling but you want to tell your old friends you're doing well.
Simply say to your school friends, "I want to see (whatever film you want to see). Do you want to come out on Saturday?" it's always a bit nerve-wracking if you're not used to being the one that organises things. Don't get discouraged if no one can make it at first - that happens occasionally, it's just bad luck and nothing to do with you - just say, "OK, when can you come out?". Most probably, though, nearly everyone you ask will say yes.
It's often difficult with new friends because there isn't the sponteneity to just assume that you'll meet up outside of school, and you can feel weird calling them and asking them to meet up. You just have to work at it. Perhaps if you hear some friends discussing going out, ask if you can go too.
The other thing is, thought you don't say where you're from originally, the fact that you come from somewhere different makes you interesting! :) People will probably be curious about you. Invite them round your house - seeing where another person lives usually does prompt questions so hopefully you'll get to know each other a bit better.
Also, see if you can join a group or team that does something you're interested in. Shared interests are a good way to get to know people, and it'll also give you something to do!
As to feeling jealous - try to bear in mind that you probably don't know the whole story. While some of your friends probably are having a good time, there are bound to be others who are doing no better than you are, they're just not showing it. (The website you mentioned sounds like Facebook. I suspect many people of using Facebook for posing. Look, I have millions of friends!) It's best if you get on with life rather than pining away wondering how your friends are doing so well.
2006-12-21 02:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Helen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have to stop worrying about what you r old friends are doing and focus on you. in order for your new frie4nds to hang out with you outside of school, do something to make them realize that you are a fun person to be around. if they say we are doing something after school ask can you come along. close mouths don't get fed.
2006-12-21 02:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by vanillaswril 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop being the out cast you are doing it to your self just go out with them have they ever said that you can not go you hang with them at school why not outside next time they go out say hey guy wait for me trust me they will they are probably waiting for you to go with them they might think you don't like there new friends if they are you real friends they will not send you away
2006-12-21 01:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not gong to stop feeling jealous until you make some friends of your own. Good luck!
2006-12-21 01:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like his opinion of you is a lot higher than your opinion of yourself. Obviuosly he doesn't see anything wrong with you, and he really likes you so that's why he's with you. Any of your insecurities, try not to let him know about them, they may drive him away.
2016-05-23 05:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thru the years i 've realized that jealousy comes from having the fear of losiin you partner......know and trust the relationship....if you guys understand eachother and love eachother why fear that you will lose that person with just a small situation...but now if you find yourself (trying to have) a realtionship then actually having one.....you have to work that out
2006-12-21 01:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really want to hang out with them and make new friends at the same time... why not ask them if you can hang out with them for once and maybe they'll enjoy your company... JUST DONT CLING TO THEM!!! trust me experienced this with this girl who just clinged and shes really annoying us already... who knows? maybe you'll be friends with them again... but dont let the friends you hang out with left out... invite them all together and you'll all be one big happy bunch...
2006-12-21 02:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by --?-- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask some of your friends around where you are now if they want to hang out. you'll get over it eventually, just sounds like home sickness.
2006-12-21 01:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completly agree with lady jay. Gradually as you make more friends your jealousy will go away.
2006-12-21 02:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by Hanna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find new freinds stay in touch with old tho or start to befreind your old ones again over common ground
2006-12-21 01:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋