All week I have been taking his mail to the post office and because I wanted to stay home today to study and relax and said that I would do it but that I was getting really tired of doing it he swore at me and called me names and threatened me in various ways. He only contributes $600 to the household a month! What should I do?
2006-12-21 01:49:51 · 16 answers · asked by Kimberly B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
600$! lmao use that as a defense shiet das what my girl would do. if i had yelled at her she would have brang that up i can hear it now "oh what so you wanna talk sh!t huh for someone who only makes 600$ a month you got the nerve to talk sh!t ***** when you make at least a 1,000$ then you can say sh!t other than that you should shut da **** up" . if hes a abusive type run ***** run for yo life.
2006-12-21 01:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do is talk to him about the way he is talking to you and tell him you do not like when he calls you names and that you will not except it period. How much money he contributes to the household should not be brought into it however if you are working all the time or going to school and he has more time then you tell him you do not mind doing it however you need time to get your things done. However if you do have time there should not be a problem with you taking the mail to the po. Also when you said your getting tired of it depending on how it came out of your mouth he just may have got defensive but if he does this all the time then you need to have a long talk. If he doesnt change then you should either get counselling to see where all his anger is coming from and if that does not work leave him or just decide whats important for you and leave him if you must. Also if he is threatning you put a stop to that. If hes abusive then you need to get rid of him or maybe he was raised that way and hes used to it. No mater what though you guys are a couple and should do for each other equally and treat each other with respect no matter who brings home more money.
2006-12-21 10:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Syrinthia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My concern is that you have a low self esteem issue that makes you think that you are not worthy of independent thought. You sound like a generally nice person who is living with someone who is not as considerate. We must understand that we can not be all things, to all people, and that they can not be all things to us. However we should expect that we should be treated with respect and understanding. Sharing a life together is about understanding and excepting.
The issue of supporting the house hold is an underlying problem that you must bring out into the open so it doesn't become the nucleus of other issues later.
2006-12-21 10:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Commonsense 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'll tell you one thing, if he is that nasty towards you, you need to watch your back girlfriend. If he ever puts his hands on you, you need to wait until he goes to sleep, go to the kitchen, boil a pot of water, go to where he's sleeping and douse that water on his @ss. Then beat his @ss with the hot pot! Or you can call the police. But if you're not going to press charges because you're one of those forgiving women, I'd take my 1st suggestion. I do not play when it comes down to a man putting his hands on me or selling wolf tickets in my face! I will pick up a blunt object quick, fast and in a hurry and beat the living sh!t out of his @ss! Now that's what I would do! I'll worry about being fingerprinted later!
2006-12-21 10:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops, nobody should be intimated by anyone, least of all a spouse!!! If I'm not going to do it with all the problems I've got no one has the right or excuse to make this vile behaviour okay!!! That's that.
2006-12-21 09:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen girl he has the potential to be abusive. It sounds like he's a controlling personality. If that is how you want to live by all means stay. Otherwise evaluate the situation carefully. good luck
2006-12-21 10:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his sorry a**! He is a user. Tell him to get a second job or get out....and tell him to take his own crap to the post office. He sounds like a real a**hole. If he is threatening you physically, kick him out....call the cops, whatever. Kick him to the curb!
2006-12-21 10:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help. There are services for women like you were the husband is verbally abusing you. Take back your life you deserve better then that!
2006-12-21 10:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by seashell9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really need marrige counseling. that is verbal abuse which should not be happening. if counseling doiesnt work u should start a new life without him. threats are even worse. dont let them scare u. just tell someone and ull be fine, i will pray for u
2006-12-21 10:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by jldevin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please think about yourself right now and not about him. you don't need to be in a relationship where you are being abused! and yes that is what it is , if you are being threatened and called names then its abuse and you dont need to put up with it! i was in a relationship where that was happening and i had to decide to take a stand and move on. i packed up my kids and left. i'm not saying you should pack it in but do think about couples counseling. it will help the two of you to learn to talk to eachother and learn where to put those misplaced feelings of anger. if hes not willing to go to it with you then he will never learn to deal with his anger and the two of you will contiue to have these problems. contact me if you would like to talk further! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-21 10:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋