what should i do? the little girl is nearly 4 now and ive kept my thoughts to my self but i still think it. i know its not my place to interfere but would hate something to come out in the future and have not said anything.
2006-12-21 01:42:03 · 35 answers · asked by horrified 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have no intention of saying anything i will just wait for something to come out itself. but there are other issues to this that i didnt go into. like who the father could me and believe me if this other guy is the father then it does concern me.
2006-12-21 01:51:07 · update #1
Leave it alone unless by what you mention it could be your husband's or your brother's. Then it does concern you.
2006-12-21 04:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Geneddly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on 'why' you don't think the husband is the father. There's also this; he may not be the father, and he may know that he's not. If he was already aware of it, he wouldn't be announcing to the world that his wife was impregnated by another man. He would carry on as though the child was his.
You haven't given enough information as to why you think he's not the biological dad. If there was extremely compelling reason to believe that, then you may have a case for notifying the father. But in most circumstances, even if that were true, the best approach would be to leave it alone.
2006-12-21 01:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep very quiet!! Unless you have absolute proof, and them I would speak with the wife first before anyone else! A lot of people thought my brothers wife was carrying another mans baby and a lot of nasty things were said. As time has gone past, the son is now 16 .. there is no doubt whatsoever that he is my brothers child. It caused a lot of unnecessary heart ache. If you feel this is wearing you down though .. speak to the mother .. alone and in a non menancing way. She has her reasons ... but they could be totally unfounded! Trust in her word though, as she is the mother of the child!
2006-12-21 01:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soooooo not ur business!if she is theirs,they'll hate u and drop u as a friend.if she isnt the dads,but they are all happy together,why interfere?maybe he knows,but has forgiven.maybe he doesnt know,but he loves the childand life is good for them. y would u want to blow it apart? if ur so concerned say nothing! if u do,and the parents split,this innocent,blameless child could wind up without the man she knows as her father,with a single mother,in childcare all day because single mothers incomes fall,and life is hard for them.if its not his child,he wont have to pay support-so what would u accomplish-ruining a childs parental and financial security? would thaty make u proud???if the "truth" comes out someday,somehow,well,at least it wouldnt be ur fault!!!a very young childs emotional security is at stake here-why even consider doing something to jeopardise that??????think of the child first-whats best for her!!!!
2006-12-21 01:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Adriel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know this for a fact? I mean, have you seen genetic proof?! If not, don't meddle in some one else's business. For all you know, the guy may know it's not his, but they have chosen to get on with their lives and put it behind them
No one knows what goes on in a couples private life behind closed doors - do not interfere, you will only regret it. If it comes out in the future and you were right, it will be very very messy, believe me, you don't want to be the cause of that.
2006-12-21 01:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by the cat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So what? Why do you care? If they are happy and the husband is bringing up the little one as his, then even if it isnt biologically his baby he is its DAD. Father=Biological.....Dad=The one who brings up a child, loves it, makes sure its got food, clothes and everything else it needs.
I wouldn't say anything. And to be honest, what if you DID say something and it turns out to be his baby.....they will never forgive you for causing all that distress.
Methinks maybe you wanna cause trouble for some reason...now maybe that reason is that you want him or something, i don't know.
Leave it.
2006-12-21 01:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by bikerchick77_uk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your thoughts to yourself. If they are (outwardly at least) a happy family you really shouldn't be even thinking of opening your mouth about this. It could cause a whole lot of trouble.
Think of the child. It's not good being a child in a one parent family (I know only too well).
Over time, your friend (the female) may confide in you, but when and if she does keep your thoughts to yourself.
2006-12-21 01:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Phlodgeybodge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep it zipped, unless when you say that the father you think it could be could concern you and that guy is YOUR dude, then do clear the air. But, the post didn't read that way, so with the info given, I'd say don't tell.
2006-12-21 02:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by you "don't think she is the husbands"? Regardless of who her biological father is, the husband has looked after the girl for 4 years, thinks of her as his daugher,would presumably do whatever it took to ensure her welfare, and the little girl regards him as her father. Surely that's what a father is, rather than some anonymous sperm donor?
2006-12-21 01:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not as uncommon as you think...and there's a chance the husband already knows but just doesn't want it to be publicly known and it happy to bring up the child. perhaps try talking to the mother to dispell your suspicions especially if it would concern you regarding who the father is. but if she is sure or doesn't want anything said then leave well alone!
2006-12-21 02:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key words. " I know it's not my place to interfere". You need to look at yourself and determine honestly, what your motives are here. this is none of your business, why would you concern yourself with something so personal to other people. Mind your business. Find something fulfilling within your own life to concentrate on. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-21 01:45:30 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋