Do you still need time to "grieve" the loss of the marriage before you move on? If you do not take that time and jump into a relationship (even before you separate) will your new relationship have a chance? What do you do with all the baggage?
2006-12-21 01:41:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You still need to grieve, if you feel the need to grieve. Just because you are the one who wants the divorce, it doesn't mean that it doesn't sadden you. Or for a short period feel like a failure. Or half a dozen other emotions you may have. You are entitled to feel pain, anger, sadness, etc. You are suffering a loss as well.
Baggage will eventually go away as you heal and forgive (whether it be yourself or your ex spouse) Any relationship has a chance if both people are willing to make it work.
2006-12-21 01:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone in this situation. Yes, you do need time to grieve. After all you have built some memories with the person you are leaving behind. If you had a relationship with someone before you separated, what you may be feeling is guilt and I don't think this relationship will last because you were married when you had it and you will always wonder if this person might do the same to you. You leave all the baggage behind and start over. It's sad, but divorce happens, but life goes on. Good luck
2006-12-21 09:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the one that divorce, your "grieve" is probably long gone right after you took the decision to end the marriage. By the time you find the courage to end it, you are probably over it. You probably took your decision based on what you like, what you don't and this will be the baggage for your next relation. Even if you wait 3 years for the next relation... You won't find out something new that you didn't knew. But don't get into another relationship just to be in one... make sure that you are feeling "well" with this person.
2006-12-21 23:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by wild4040 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well probably so, but chances are you'll move on too fast and go through a grieving period later, after the other person has moved on.
2006-12-21 10:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by while_love_remains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good to mourn the loss of your marriage, technically it's a death, the death of your marriage. Then put it all behind you and leave it in the past where it belongs. Then it's time to move forward and get on with your life with no hang ups.
2006-12-21 10:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are crap. You broke your vows, didnt keep your commitments, did not honor what you swore to do. Dont take time to grieve. Take the time to feel ashamed and ask yourself why all of your feelings are so important? Does the other person not have feelings, expectations, rights to things, like you keeping your word to them?
2006-12-21 10:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you must always grieve for a failed marriage .
2006-12-21 09:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when and if it is time to jump onto a new relationship.
2006-12-21 09:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i divorced my ex hubby and jumped straight into a relationishop the next day... he is now my husband..everyone thought he was a rebound. they thought wrong. do what you feel.
2006-12-21 09:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by hasanyoneseenmyshoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what feels the best.. :D
2006-12-21 09:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋