2006-12-21 01:35:21 · 27 answers · asked by a guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
masturbation is natural. I've seen monkeys doing it.
It's a good stress release, and it's NOT cheating.
People who orgasm frequently have less road rage.
2006-12-21 01:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think masturbation is wrong, whether you're married or not. But I do think that it should be your LAST option, after you've exhausted all efforts to make love with your wife. Maybe there's something you're not doing for her, or she needs extra attention in order to become aroused and ready for sex? Have you tried talking to her? Getting your wife to open up - emotionally and physically - should be your #1 goal. If all your efforts fail and she's still not interested, then feel free to take things into your own hands (literally).
2006-12-21 03:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often does she not want to make love. If she is giving it up 3-4 times a week, your just being greedy and wanting to masturbate because you're probably looking at porn. Don't blame your wanting to jack-off on your wife. You were jacking off before you got married. The fact you would even ask shows that there must be some deeper issues. no one needs assurance that it's ok to masturbate unless there is something else behind it.
2006-12-21 01:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course not. I think most married people masturbate. It's only wrong if you are choosing that over your wife on a regular basis. But if you have needs and she's not interested, you have every right to do what you need to do. There's no reason to be ashamed or lie about it or anything. If she has a problem with it, you should try and talk about it with her. You guys are married, you can talk about sex.
2006-12-21 01:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by leaptad 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it's your body, and as long as you're not using other women, I don't see how getting youself off is a problem. Is she really going to be jealous of your hand???
Now, that being said, there are other factors:
Are you watching/looking at porn while doing this? Talking dirty with other women online? If so, you might want to find out how your wife feels about those things (aside from the masturbation) before doing them. Many women view things like that as a betrayal. Some women also feel as if they are not attractive to you if you have to look at other women and therefore want to have sex with you less. Be careful with this.
Are you masturbating in place of having sex with your wife? Do you make passes at her and try to get her turned on (this doesn't mean saying "let's go upstairs so I can stick it in and be done in 5 minutes")? You need to try a little harder maybe to get her in the mood, romance and seduce her. She may come around.
Above all else, if there is an issue in your sex life, you need to talk to her about it. Don't make it about sex either. Put it to her as, "when you act like you don't want to be intimate, it makes me feel like you don't love me or find me attractive any more". Only talk about this after you try seducing her without result several times or else she may come back at you with "why would I want to do something that's only pleasuring you??"
Also, do whatever you have to to make sure she has an orgasm EVERY time.
2006-12-21 01:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Definitely not wrong.
A little (or a lot) of self-indulgence can be a wonderful thing.
Masturbating either alone or with someone else is a wonderful way to ease the sexual stress of having a partner that has an appetite substantially lower than yours.
Go for it --- guilt free.
2006-12-21 02:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong. It is your body, and you can do what you like with it. Just because you are married, it doesn't mean your wife has complete control over your sexuality. You aren't cheating, or hurting anyone. It's your private business. Just don't involve anyone else, or make her feel guilty about not wanting to make love, and it's fine.
2006-12-21 01:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by helly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. I have an excellent sex life with my husband and I still masturbate a few times a week. I feel like the more sex you have the more you want so we are both always in the "want".
2006-12-21 01:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I thinks its ok! Its just dont do it in place of your wife all the time.And do it in private for sure.Most men do this frm what Ive heard married or not! They like to spank the monkey!!!lol
2006-12-21 01:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by jessy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope,there's not a thing wrong with that.It's better than going out and having an affair and a lot safer too!!
2006-12-21 01:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by fantasy_lady428 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋