When I first got married it took a full thirty days for me to relax enough to actually make love. I've heard of it being uncomfortable or even painful the first time for women, but THIRTY DAYS????
Has it been this difficult for anyone else out there? I've asked my friends and no one seems to have had as much difficulty as I did.
I tried to be more specific, but my question got deleted for "adult content."
I'll just say it wasn't for a lack of lubrication and, at one point, it was very apparent that my hyman was still intact. And oh man it hurt like the dickens when it was broken.
Since that time I've had a child and my husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years.
2006-12-21 01:30:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Yes, I was a virgin when I got married. My husband is the epitome of everything I think is sexy. Even though I've been married to him for three and a half years (and I realize it's really that long, but still), every time I look at him (unless we've just argued about something - hahaha) I get goose bumps because I think he's so hot.
2006-12-21 02:01:54 · update #1
In answer to someone's question about whether it's ok now that I've had a child, yes, it's made a "HUGE" difference (pun intended). Things are all good now, but I've just been plagued with wondering why it was so hard at first.
2006-12-21 05:43:09 · update #2
I'm kind of more looking for other people who have had the same kind of experience than looking for reasons why. I have some theories as to why, though some of the reasons here are very interesting and I"m going to look into them too. THank you so much!
2006-12-21 05:45:03 · update #3
Painful sexual intercourse, called dyspareunia in medical terminology (pronounced “dis-pair-une-ee-ah”), is a common complaint among women seeking gynecologic care. I'd talk to my gynecologist and ask her/or him to examine you to see if it's the way you're built. There may be a perfectly good biological reason for your difficulties. You may have a more narrow opening which makes it more difficult or painful. Many women have this problem - it's not just you. Your Gyn may be able to suggest a different sexual position for you and your husband to try.
I am a little confused by your question, you said it took you a month to relax - and now you've been married 3 1/2 years and have had a child, but what you don't say is if you are still experiencing difficulties or that it's okay and pleasurable now? Are you looking for people with your same problem or are you looking for a reason behind or a solution to the problem? Here's a link (below) to a great page describing dyspareunia, the identification of, the cause for and the treatment.
2006-12-21 03:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by emmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like u are just very tight on the inside.
it happens to some women but just try to keep relaxed about stuff and keep reminding urself how much pleasure ur hubby is getting from penetrating you.......
some women cant do it at all - something called vaginissimu or something like that. It might be a bit easier for u now afta having a child?
2006-12-21 02:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lara D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So were you a virgin when you got married or are you saying you didn't have sex thirty days after you got married? Either way my answer is: are you sexually attracted to your husband that might be the problem...
2006-12-21 01:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax and dont be frigid
2006-12-22 21:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by suraj_ki_chamak 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋