2006-12-21 01:15:27 · 10 answers · asked by Reo 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes, behavior can always be changed.
HOWEVER, the wife or girlfriend should get out of there as soon as possible and seek protection and help until the guy:
--- admits he has a problem
--- goes and gets help (sometimes jail is help)
--- demonstrates his new clean life for a period of time
I have seen friends go through this cycle of violence, and it is really difficult. However, I have seen a guy who was beat his whole life and subsequently beat his girlfriend up get straightened out over a period of several years. He is now a stable, reliable, good husband.
2006-12-21 01:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by myopenhandsguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of it depends upon how long has he been exhibiting such behavior.
The deeper (going back further in the person in terms of time or emotional intensity) the sources of anger, frustration, and/or confinement, the less likely they will be able to recognize and seek to control their anger.
Also, it's less likely they will change their behavior if they have a history of abuse in the family, especially the father beating the mother. Learned and reinforced behavior, after awhile, becomes instinctually applied, so much so that the abuser does not recognize their actions as being anything but 'logical' or 'right'.
A single (and I do mean SINGLE) instance of violence can be attributed to acute stress or a need to lash out and hurt the person. Most people do this verbally (a child saying 'I hate you' is a good example) but one (again, I cannot emphasis this enough) time is not cause for concern. ANY incident beyond one, however, signals a learned behavior pattern that is not likely to be changed.
The problem is that people who do it once, for the most part, tend to do it again, and with each episode become more and more violent. This is because the lack of resistance only fuels the channeling of their anger towards that activity. I know of several women who have been in abusive situations, and the extensive amount of talking we have done has helped me formulate this opinion, but it is my opinion only.
2006-12-21 09:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope so.... I, personally, don't see anything lower....
SELF CONTROL, and NO EXCESSIVE DRINKING OR DRUGS.
The person will have to work HARD, because, obviously, he has no respect for women (consciously or subconsciously).
If the woman is driving that person, soooo much, that he just can't help himself, it's time to break up, but if it's natural for him- back to work. And get that **** out of himself.
P.S. it's a "piece-of-sh@t" thing to do.
2006-12-21 10:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....depends...was it ONLY once ???? if not...than i feel no.....unless that man is willing to admit the problem and seek some sort of help and another way of dealing with anger and frustration....my advice to the lady, get the hell outta there....no one deserves to be someones punching bag.
2006-12-21 09:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he gets therapy, unfortunately once they abuse, they will always do so....I would like to say that they could change but the odds are very slim....with counseling though it could be possible.
2006-12-21 09:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he needs help i recommend he can takes some classes for that.
2006-12-21 09:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by babylisa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, with help and support from family and Friends.
2006-12-21 09:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jamil S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. have him jailed. He will be different in there.
2006-12-21 09:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe possible
2006-12-21 09:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by traveller 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure.
2006-12-21 09:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Truth bearer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋