I'm crushing bigtime on my neighbor. He knows that, but hasn't made any move so far.
Another neighbor of mine said that my crush confided in him about me. My crush said that the reason he hasn't asked me out yet is because of our age difference.
Thing is, I'm 13 and he's 16. Does it make much difference?
Even if he wants to wait, we'll still be 3 years apart, no matter what. So should I just forget him?Or give him a piece of my mind?Or what??
2006-12-21 01:12:31 · 20 answers · asked by Jayden 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It may not be so much the actual number of years in age difference, just the amount of change we go through in those years. Between 13 and 16, your body changes drastically, most teens begin to get to know themselves, etc. Also he is in high school, with high school friends, who probably would judge them if they found out he was dating a 13 year old. Probably by next year when you guys are both in the same school and you get more mature and he also matures, things will get better. But for now I suggest that you explore your options... you have a whole lifetime to decide to focus on one person! Good Luck
2006-12-21 01:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by eb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13, three years difference is quite a lot. For one thing, you'll be crossing the legal age line in many places where it'd be illegal for him to have sex with you even if you consented! That would be something I'd advise everyone to avoid; even if you two may both consent, anyone else who found out & who had a grudge against him could make major trouble for him.
Likely you'll date & break up quite a few times yet in the years to come, but if he's really the guy for you and you end up with him later, then three years isn't a big deal anymore... once you're both adults (legally and emotionally!) three years is no great difference anymore. So just give it time, you've both got plenty of time yet to look around and be teenagers!
2006-12-21 09:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it makes a big difference, but down the road it's nothing. My parents are three years apart but they didn't start dating until after college. It depends on the people. If you guys have totally different levels of maturity, it won't work out but if you act old for your age I would give it a try!
2006-12-21 09:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by alikat4392 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you won't like to hear this, but you are too young right now. In a few years, the age difference won't be that big of a deal. Right now, it seems major to him because he's in high school, and you are in middle school. Give him some time. If he likes you, things will eventually work out.
Good luck!
2006-12-21 09:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um .. 13 is a bit young to to be with a 16 y/o. now dont get me wrong , i'm all for People being together no matter the age. thats just a Bit young. But hey it's your life , do what ya will.
2006-12-21 09:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you should be worrying about other things...not your 16 year old neighbor. You are young, too young to be in any kind of relationship.
Move on, forget him. Play a sport, get a hobby....
2006-12-21 10:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by Loli M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite normal to have crushes at 13...
However...you are not supposed to act on them at 13.
I had a crush on my 26 year old teacher at 13.
At 7...I had a crush on my 25 year old aunt.
At 10...I had a crush on another aunt who was 20.
16 year old boys are not interested in 13 year old girls.
They are more interested in girls of their age or slightly older like 18.
A 16 year old boy could get himself in trouble with the law...and most certainely with your parents for dating a 13 year old girl.
2006-12-21 09:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that time is on your side. The difference between your ages becomes less and less significant as time goes by.
My own feelings of insecurity (desperation nearly), in a relationship drove someone away.
He has got the message alright.
2006-12-21 09:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sciman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is to old for you. At this boys age sex is running all through this boys mind. You need to move on not deal w/ this guy. You are young live a little don't grow up fast.
2006-12-21 09:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly care for him, you wont want to see him in trouble. Stay away from him if he doesn't want a relationship with you. He is probably in high school, while your still in middle school. there is a lot of maturing yet to happen on your part before you would be ready for that kind of relationship.
2006-12-21 09:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋