Any suggestions?
2006-12-21 01:09:58 · 33 answers · asked by ANTI-STALKER QUEEN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-21 01:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of Three 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The trouble may be that when you didn't live together, he had to make a special effort to see you, and now that you're together all the time, he takes for granted that you're there and forgets to make that special effort. Firstly, talk to him about this so that he understands how you feel. He might simply be unaware that there's a problem, or there may be something else going on that is causing this behaviour - he might be finding work stressful, for example.
Perhaps try and arrange a night out at least once a week so you can spend some time away from the television, in each other's company! This should help remind you both why you're together.
Maybe also having a night when you do something away from him would remind him that you won't just wait around until he's ready.
I hope it works out for you.
2006-12-21 01:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Helen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he did this before you lived together, now that you are together in the same place 24/7 you get to see it first hand. When you were going out on dates he had to make and effort to see you. Now you are not going anywhere so no effort is required...sit him down tell him that this is not OK with you and maybe schedule a specific night of the week that you have "date night" and alternate weeks as to who plans it. You plan this week, he plans next...but make it clear "date night" is not for sitting home and watching TV until you fall asleep. My husband and I do this and now it's turned into a night we really look forward too. I am always excited to see what he has planned and vice versa. It does not have to be fancy, one night he took me out into the back yard lit some candles and we had a picnic, listened to music and just hung out.
2006-12-21 01:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by fortillfriday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never move in with the boyfriend, there is a small percentage of people that actually get married after moving in with the significant other before marriage. He is being to cormfortable with you, an d you two should talk. I would definetly try to spice up the relationship alittle more, and if there are two rooms in the house sleep in separate rooms. Hopefully this relationship stays strong.
2006-12-21 01:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by old 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unplug the TV and turn on the alarm clock. Perhaps he needs a bit of a wake up call. If you do things for him, stop doing them. Live your own life and let him see that if he wants to live a real life with you, he needs to get off the couch. If he doesn't get the idea and if it is your place, pack his bags, show him the door and explain how to use it. Good luck, dear.
2006-12-21 01:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by expatturk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I'm at home and comfortable that's what I do. It's not a relection of how he feels about you at all. Some people keep themselves busy at home as a form of relaxing, but others just purely relax by not moving or doing ANYTHING.
Hopefully when you two go out together, you interact a little more. If not, then maybe you should talk to him about it. Make sure he's not getting overly comfortable or bored.
Maybe if you talk to him topless, he'll be more apt to pay attention. lol...
2006-12-21 01:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Karen W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very common relationship problem. Couples get lazy and comfortable, and you have to make an effort to stay active and have fun together. Plan things to do outside the home, spend time doing fun activities together. Don't let it stay like this...the longer the laziness continues, the harder it will be to break it.
2006-12-21 03:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men do is watch tv and sleep. He doesn't have to leave to be with you now, so he's gotten a little lazy. Tell him to shape up or ship out.
2006-12-21 01:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry babe, but the statistics on living with your BF or GF are not in your favor ....
Secondly, what were your unspoken expectations in moving in? Obviously you expected him and he you, to act in a certain way ... Communication will alleviate some of your issues ... the rest ... he is who he is, and you wont change him ....
2006-12-21 01:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Eamon35 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you asked him out on a date?
have you asked him to do other things?
have you asked him not to watch tv all day?
have you asked him anything!
Guys are weird they won't just do something if there is something else that is easier to do! you got to ask them! and share how you feel!
i would tell him!
say this!
"hey baby can we turn off the tv for one nite this week and just hang out the both of us! with no distractions! "
at that time express how you feel!
you need to!
2006-12-21 01:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
True true, you mustnt be taken for granted and u must let him knw tt, i stay with my bf too but we talk abt this subject and realized that we must spend quality time meaing tv must be off, dinner nt n front of tv...and spend 15 mins cuddling before sleeping..
2006-12-21 01:12:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋