Where do I start. I come over to the Uk cuz my partner convinced me, left my career, family and everything behind. Been here for a1 and half and it has gone all wrong. My partner works as a Staff Nurse and I as Law Clerk though qualified overseas lawyer.
She has treated me like **** to the extent that once out of fustration I slapped her and she called police on me and kicked me out of the house. I had no where to go as I knew very few people in London , she asked me to come back which I did and that was the biggest mistake I did.
we had another fught cuz she doesnt want talking to other female frends and she said I should give her the keys to the house.
I am totally fustrated by all these when i remember I had my secure job, life and didnt depend on any one and left it all for her.
Right now I am homeless.
please advise. I dont want t get back at her that will just waist my time, I just want a way out of this. By the way I am only 25. can you believe it. or text 07788747041
2006-12-21 00:51:50 · 25 answers · asked by JR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! I feel for you, and even more so because I completely relate to your story, I have stayed here despite hardly any friends, crappy job, no money etc!
I think you've just got to suck it up, and I know its hard. Work out a plan to get yourself home. Where are you from???
Things must seem lonely right now, but if things are like this they will continue to get worse. Can you go home after christmas, even when you are sad and miserable its still a lot nicer to be at home surrounded by people who really care.
Life can be lonely, but just think of the future!
I moved to London from Aust, and had a blast. I met an English guy who blue me away completely, fell deeply in love. My visa was going to run out and he was completing an important course. So we decided to get married.
We've been married a few weeks, and its turning sour. I've almost left him a few times already. I'm only 23, I've been hanging around here living with his parents and working a crappy admin job (have a double degree mgt/mktng) and letting him control my life.
I think its easy to get stuck in bad relationships when you feel isolated. If this woman isn't treating you right, then you deserve better. It sounds like you are sacrifcing to be with her and she doesn't appreciate you.
Good lcuk, let us know what you decide to do, I'd text you but I'm scared that he would find out!
Have a good christmas, and remember the new year will be a lot brighter for you. It's really mean of her to chuck you out at this time of year, especially when you have no where to go.
Youth Hostel's are cheap, and I'm sure you'll meet some lost souls there and maybe even enjoy yourself! At least you'd have your mind taken off things.
2006-12-21 01:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore Leacy - Under a lot of provocation, when someone is mentally torturing you then a little slap does not make you a bad person.
If you beat her for no reason, or hit her with little provocation or just for the fun of it, then you are a bad person.
You have learnt a valuable lesson here. A lesson of the ego. The ego always wants more.
You had the comfortable, happy life with the family and the good job. Why would you leave all that for some girl you thought you loved?
The answer is that your psyche is controlled by your ego which is a malicious, destructive entity which is on a futile and impossible search for "more" which is endless. It is never satisfied, it is like a hungry beast.
Even the wealthiest, most popular people still want "more". That is why Madonna adopts african babies, that is why Michael Jackson builds fun fairs in his garden.
The answer is to dissolve your ego. To live completely in the moment.
You are homeless, alone - Accept this completely, then act. Do not live in the past. Live in the now. Do not resist. Try it, focus on your pain then say "resist nothing". See what happens.
Your life unfolds in the playing field of the present moment only. Dissolve your ego and you will be free.
2006-12-21 09:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun my advice to you is move on move away either back home or start a new life some where else you don't need this you are only 25 and you have your life ahead of you. she is playing you she knows you will do anything that she wants and she is playing with your head. she is going to do something and as you have said you have slapped her (not a manly thing ) but if she winds you up and she knows she can you will end up doing something more to her and you could get in deep trouble for someone who sounds as though she don't give a damn for you. it also sounds she doesn't want you but she don't want no one else to have you either. getting back at her is not the answer because i don't think it would bother her really it would just be something else to throw back at you.... start a new life Hun get out while you can, go search for that special someone cause she is out there somewhere and you stopping with someone that doesn't care for you like you deserve, you are just wasting time.
good luck Hun x
2006-12-21 09:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by kjw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you could go back home? Try not to dwell in what you use to have and figure out how to move forward. I wish I could help you but I'm very far away. I am so sad for you. This is a lousy time of the year to be treated this way. Actually anytime is a lousy time to be treated like sh*t. I wish you the best.
2006-12-21 09:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some temporary digs in London until you can afford a better place. That is if you want to stay. Do you want to go back home? Could you go back to the life you had and re-build bridges and get a job again? Hope you soon find a new lady that looks after you
2006-12-21 08:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by PhoenixRights 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what you need to do hun - pack up your belongings and go home to wherever it is you came from!
you took a chance on love and thats great - but obviously it didnt work out!!
Dont be homeless for xmas = can you book a flight to your hometown asap and start your life as it used be before you moved.
I wish you all the luck in the world. xx
2006-12-21 09:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u feel resentful because u gave up something secure to be with her, and your expectations were different than the way it is. we never know when we get into a relationship what will happen, or if it is going to work, as there are no guarantees. why don't u just go home, distance yourself from her, she isn't treating u fairly. u should never have slapped her, even if u feel it was justified, there are other ways of handling things.
2006-12-21 10:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a law clerk you should know better than to beat a woman. Chill out forget the nurse, get a job or return from whence you came and begin again.
2006-12-21 09:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by SAPPER 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that this happened to you, but you have to date someone for at least 5 years to really know them. i think you should start all over with a fresh new start in life. just stay in a hotel until you can find a place to live . just remember the next person you meet take it slow, don't rush into anything. YOU COME FIRST, just be happy that your alive and well .
Good Luck w/ everything!
2006-12-21 09:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by hugabug72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to where you're from. You should be able to find work there and start a new life there. You can put this down to a hard-learned lesson. If you jointly own the house then sell it. If you own it then kick her out and either sell it or rent it out.
Good luck.
2006-12-21 08:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋