.Will it be harder if the kid is here also, even though I said the kid cannot move in? I own the house. The kid is unstable and I am scared for MY safety to have him live here, to make a long story short. Kid is 12 with learning and emotional problems.I dont want to be charged with child endangerment for putting them out.I overheard a phone conversation where my bf said"I will move him in here and see what happens, if it dosent work out I will move out"I dont know if the kid is being abused my the mother or not, the story changes every time I ask my BF about it.First, she abuses him, then she lets do whatever he wants. This is turning into such a pile of sh*t that I have stepped into.I think he might be trying to guilt me into saying yes he can move in. No, it WONT work . If you think I am being selfish, ask yourself if you would want someone living in your house who has been physically aggressive towards you.I am thinking about telling BF I will double his rent if his kid moves in.
2006-12-21 00:40:21 · 8 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He pays little rent now, $400 a month is nothing here. Rents start at 1500 for a one bedroom. He has a lot of debt from his divorce and I doubt he would be able to pay even $800 and would probably have to move in with his parents.
2006-12-21 00:42:24 · update #1
Doubling his rent will not solve your problem. If you are truly afraid, stand your ground. I can understand him wanting to help his son too, especially if he has problems, but the story shouldn't change every time you hear it. Something isn't right here. You can't be charged woith child endangerment because he isn't actually living with you yet and he is not YOUR responsiblity. The boy sounds like he needs some stability somewhere, but you can't live in fear either. Is the boy in some kind of program for behaviour problems and/or counseling. If not, he needs to be. I think once he moves him in, you will never get him out. The guy isn't respecting your wishes now by insisting he move in and try it even after you have said NO. Ask him which part of NO he doesn't understand and exlain why you say no.
2006-12-21 01:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is time to terminate the relationship with the boyfriend now as you are not ready or willing to deal with his son and the relationship will never survive long term. Any good parent should put their child first and as you have indicated you don't want the child in your house, it is better to sever the ties now. I don't see it as being selfish; it is merely not what you want and it would be more selfish to just tolerate the situation just to have a man in your life while only making a messed up kid feel more alienated that he already does; he will sense that you do not want him around and only act out all the more. The kid needs a stable environment and you have been upfront that is not something your are ready or willing to provide.
Legally, it will be much harder to terminate the situation if a documented emotionally disturbed child is in the house and it could drag on legally for months and not only be emotionally draining, but financially as well.
2006-12-21 09:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you own the house you can get them out. If you are considered a "landlord" because he pays rent, you can get him "evicted". It takes you to go to a courthouse and file a petition for eviction. You will have to state the reasons why you are making him move out. It may take 30 days to remove him from your house too. This really depends on what state you live in too.
2006-12-21 08:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you feel, then get rid of the bf now before it happens...it's your house pack his stuff and change the locks....don't get trapped into something that will make your life miserable and where you will be fearful in your own house...he sounds like a freeloader anyway....good luck
2006-12-21 08:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel so bad for that boy. Do you think he brought the emotional problems on himself?? All he needs is some love and understanding, maybe a little more than most children do. Apparently you can't provide that so please, just let them go. Get a vibrator or something if you need to have a man in your life.
2006-12-21 08:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you own the house, just change the locks and stack his stuff on the front porch.
2006-12-21 08:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Double his rent? If he doesn't abide by your decision, kick him out. No one would want to feel unsafe in their own home.
2006-12-21 08:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
U R CRUEL..
ALL U NEED IS MONEY..
THATS WHAT SATISFIES YOU..
2006-12-21 08:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Snowball 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋