I have OCD and sometimes I get stuck on thoughts and can't get them out of my head. They can be ideas or things or even people. I have this history teacher and she is young and pretty, AND I'M NOT GAY. But for some reason I am always thinking about her. She is really cool and its like shes the kind of teacher you want to be friends with because she is so cool. I just hate how she is always on my mind. I have never told anyone about this yet and I just want to know if this is because of OCD that I can't stop thinking about her. I am straight and I like guys but why can't I stop thinking about a female teacher?
2006-12-21 00:32:54 · 9 answers · asked by Kelly T 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It doesn't mean you're gay and it probably isn't from the OCD either. Teenagers can get "crushes" on same-sex teachers, I know because it happened to me too. I was in 8th grade and my gym leader got stuck in my head too. She was so cool. it bothered me a lot that I was almost obsessed with her, but not in a romantic way. But I got over it and I am completely heterosexual. You will, too. It's normal. It's a kind of a form of like hero worship, in a way.
2006-12-21 00:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you already have the diagnosis of OCD? If so, then your thoughts could be due to OCD. The most well-known symptom of OCD is the compulsion. Compulsions are the frequent hand-washings, rituals, ordering, and such. However, as the name suggests, OCD also has an obsessive thought component. These are recurrent, persistent, unwanted ideas, thoughts or impulses that you experience involuntarily and that appear to be senseless. They commonly intrude when you're trying to think of or do other things. So, it is completely possible that your thoughts about your teacher are obsessional. I would not worry about the gay vs. straight component of the thoughts. It sounds like your thoughts are more in admiration of your teacher...more friendly and not sexual at all. But as a person with OCD, it is in your nature to obsess about it being possible homosexual feelings.
2006-12-24 01:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by psychgrad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you admire her, but even if that is so, OCD will make it harder for you to get thoughts out of your head. What OCD does is it will take your mind exactly to where you don't want it to be (ie: having sexual thoughts about your teacher). Also, the more you tell yourself to STOP thinking these thoughts, the more you will think them.
The best thing to do is to tell yourself that there is nothing wrong with these thoughts, and that it is your OCD, not you, that is keeping them on your mind. Ask yourself "what is the worst that could happen?" Even if you were gay, it wouldn't be a big deal, but you know that you are not.
2006-12-21 01:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by Javisst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to have a nonsexual crush on someone. Maybe you really admire everything about this person, she sounds like she would be a great role model. It's one thing to admire someone and another to obsess over someone though. You should make a concerted effort to think about other things, though. Students and teachers should not be "friends", the teacher should always be a leader, someone you know will always be there to guide you. Your friends are your peers. Try to be active and get involved in other activities, anything you like to do that you can get engrossed in. Then try meeting new friends or hanging out with old friends more.
2006-12-21 00:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by Sprite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe this is O.C.D. I think what is going on is that you look up to her. If I was a betting person, I would bet that you sometimes you think how you would like to be in her position. She is not only intelligent but she is also cool.
We as a human race tend to sterotype people. "The computer geek" who nothing but geeky looking. "To be intelligent one must be old, not good looking and not cool at all."
You have learned that a person can be intelligent, cool, young and preaty. You are hoping to be like this one day. You would like to be friends with her because you look up to her and you could learn alot from her.
I developed a crush on a male professor once. He was much older than me. I am a single mom and I tend to meet idiots because of the enviroment that I am in. I think my crush was because he was single and very intelligent. After the class was over my crush stopped. It is kinda funny because he must have been atleast 15 years older than me and nothing to look at. I think that I saw an intelligent man who I could learn alot from. Not really the same thing that is going on with you, but I wanted to share that with you, because I think it is normal to have some kind of attachment towards a role model.
2006-12-21 01:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that this is not OCD - but rather, something quite normal. You are being influenced by a role model, a person in authority. Sounds pretty healthy to me, as she is probably a good role model to have. Not everything in your life is related to your OCD...so stop thinking about it and just live!
2006-12-21 00:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certain qualities that we value in our mind are found in abundance in others. When you come across one such person, we naturally tend to get attracted to him/her, maybe as a countermagnet. This phase would pass as we grow more mature and get involved in other activities. Your current history teacher is possibly one such case.
2006-12-21 00:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happened to me last semester...obsessed over my male psych teacher (not in a romantic way), and I'm a straight heterosexual male. It's good to have good influences in your life.
2006-12-21 00:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this predicament is actually quite hot...........hope this helps
2006-12-21 00:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋