I stopped over at a guys house with him and his gf when my gf was away on holiday, I didn't tell her because I knew that she would think that something had happened, and it hadn't. I then got very very drunk and told her, 3 months after the fact, which sounded even more weird!!
2006-12-21 00:28:39 · 15 answers · asked by ciz_piz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
BZZZZZZZZT!
The correct answer is that you lied by omission to protect yourself!
Tell her the truth next time. Hiding things makes people think you have a reason to hide them.
Thank you for playing.
2006-12-21 00:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we think we are doing right by omitting something really not that important and it snowballs to something huge for no reason....I don't like to do that because everything surfaces at one time and you end up looking like a liar, even though you really didn't lie, you just omitted the truth....the best you can do is sit down and explain to her that the reason you didn't tell her was that you didn't think it was prudent because she would have thought something was going on....so, from now on tell her that you will tell her regardless of the outcome because by omitting something silly, you have now seen how bad it looks and that the truth is the best way to handle a situation before it becomes something more complicated. If you should argue when you speak truthfully, things can be settled at that moment and then be forgotten, where if you wait, more suspicion is raised. So good luck, if she is an understanding person, she'll smack you upside the head and you both will be okay. Good Luck and remember, as corny as it is the truth is better than the smallest of lies....anything can be fixed when you speak the truth. I always said that to my kids, who are very open with me, sometimes even a little too much, I hear things that will curl your hair without a perm, but I prefer it that way.
2006-12-21 00:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there isn't much you can do as a lie is a lie however well intentioned. I guess it is in your favor that at least she heard the truth from you, as oppose to secondhand gossip. All you can do is talk about it and then move on. Don't give her reason to mis trust you again. You can not erase what has already come to pass, but you can build the future by making her feel secure by being straight with her from now on. Then the ball is in her court, as to whether she feels she can get over it.
2006-12-21 05:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down, tell her the truth and reasons why your lied. As people have said - trust is a 2 way thing.
If she accepts what you have said, make a point that you will be truthful in future. How can you expect her to trust you when you lie, this only creates future problems.
If she does not accept what you have told her, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship.
2006-12-21 15:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by benn26k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i don't really understand you saying you did what you did to protect her unless you tell me you are gay or will do a threesome then i see nor reason why u should lie abt being with them. And one more thing its better to tell the truth when u have the chance than risk being caught hiding it that way there's nothing you an do to make it better.
anyway way i don't think all is lost you can get her to trust you again if you can change your ways and be truthful to her no matter what
2006-12-21 01:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by Naughty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong forum. However lying is universal. You lied, period. Don't lie in the future. She has to decide if this is important enough of a lie to leave you. Trust is built step by step, put in the effort and you might do better next time.
2006-12-21 00:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you just stopped over, chatted for a bit and left then you have nothing to worry about. If that bothers her, then she has the problem, if you did something with the girl, then that is going to be harder to forgive. I wonder why you mentioned it three months later? Did you feel guilty about it?
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2006-12-21 01:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bacchus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her what you just told us, tell her WHY you didn't say anything. But i wonder, how did she react when you told her? because you seem to still be seeing her from what you said, but you also give the impression that she no-longer trusts you.
just explain to her how you feel and why you did it and hopefully things will get better
good luck!
2006-12-21 23:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have some serious relationship problems. You lied to protect you not her. The fat that you felt you had to lie is farked up.
2006-12-21 03:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have hidden it from her. You weren't protecting her from anything. If you have nothing to hide then you have nothing to fear but you should have told her because now it looks like your hiding something.
2006-12-21 00:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋