What can Grandparents do to get closer to grandkids in divorce?

Question

I have not seen my grandaughter since last Christmas due to Divorce or my Son and his wife..Wife wants nothing to do with Son;s Family..When married we got along very well with the Mother.

Answer 1

That’s sad. Personally I think grandparents are one of the best and positive influence on a child (provided they are not abusive, neglectful or nasty in some way). I cant wait until I am a grandmom :)

Unfortunately grandparents don’t have rights in most states. As for your state, I don’t know, but your local legal aid office or attorney would. Every state has legal aid offices in most counties. It should be in your phone book or call your county court clerk and ask if they have the number. They go on sliding scale, so its free to most.

Make an appointment and go see them before doing anything. Some of what you do (and you view as harmless) may be considered harassment or stalking to others.

tread lightly until then.

Answer 2

First, try calling the mother. Be nice, explain that you really miss your grandaughter, and despite what happened between your son and her, you really want a relationship with your granddaughter. Send cards...for x-mas, Valentine's Day, Easter, etc. Let them know your thinking of them and you still care, and that you are not going to take sides in the divorce-you simply want to be in contact with your grandchild.
If that doesn't work-get in touch with an attorney to see if you have legal rights in your state, but try other avenues first, before getting the law involved.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

If I were you I would have contacted your grandchildren's mother to see if you all couldn't work out a visitation schedule-----a year has been too long to wait. If a visitation schedule couldn't be worked out then I would find a lawyer who gives free consultations and see if the state your grandchildren live in has grandparents rights. If they do then and the mother refuses you access to your grandchildren then I would file for rights. Don't delay another minute call the mother and let her know you want a relationship with your grandchildren. I would have been sending them cards and calling them the whole year that I haven't seen them so that they know that they weren't forgotten. The mother may be wondering why if you all had a good relationship you haven't tried to see your grandchildren for a whole year.

Answer 4

I would have lots of correspondence between the grandparents and the grandchildren. Try to stay in touch even though you don't see the grandchildren that often. Send letters, cards, emails, pictures to let them know what's going on in your life and of course, make sure it's age appropriate. This will keep you in contact and make seeing the grandchildren easier in person. The grandchildren will appreciate it so much and will have wonderful memories of their grandparents as they grow. If the mother of the children will not give them the things you send, send everything to your son's house and have your son give it to them.

Answer 5

I would call the grand kids, don't assume the kids are going to call you. Write them letters, invite them over even if for just the day. The mother right know is hurt, and probrobly afraid of what you think of her. It is hard talking to your EX in laws, you feel as though they hold something against you. Good luck, don't give up on those kids. And I don't think the mother hate you I think she is just scared.

Answer 6

contact you lawyer because in some states their is something called grandparents rights. You may be able to get visitation rights.

Answer 7

Keep trying. She probably has some unresolved issues with your son. Time and persistence will win her over.

Answer 8

Call her up and hopefully she has a change of heart. Otherwise, have your son pick the kids up and bring them to you.