my family has always had nice big christmases.my father always went all out.he's been gone for almost 2 yrs now so i try to pass on those same traditions to my family.im married now with 3 step children whose mother is a horrible crack head.the courts just ordered for her to have them on christmas even though i know she's not gonna get them anything.my family wanted to come over to see them open their gifts but now it will just be me and my husband and i im totally depressed.whats the point of me making a big?dinner?whats exciting to wake up to with just me and my husband?i bust my tail to have a merry christmas to now have nothing.im not use to that.any suggestions?
2006-12-19 23:59:18 · 12 answers · asked by mrs.dynomite 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Here's a 'sure-fire' Christmas Recipe, try it and see what you think.....
1/2 cup of Hugs
4 teaspoons kisses
1 cup of Holiday Cheer
1/2 cup of Peace on Earth
3 teaspoon of Christmas Cheer
2 cups of Goodwill Towards Men
4 cups of Love, 1 Sprig of Mistletoe
1 large bag of Christmas Snowflakes
Mix Hugs, Kisses, Smiles, and Love .
Blend in Holiday Cheer, Peace on Earth,
Christmas Spirit and Goodwill Toward Men.
Use the mixture to fill a large, warm heart where it
Can be stored for a lifetime, for it never goes bad!
Serve as desired under Mistletoe, sprinkle liberally with
Christmas Snowflakes it is especially good when accompanied
By Christmas carols and family get-together. Serve to one and all!
Hope this helps...and do KNOW there is a REASON for all things....and I would have your 'Christmas with the kids and your family' either before or after the 25th....no rule says you have to have it the 25th. Be happy for your husband and your life with him. God Bless you and yours. ;)
And the best to you and yours In 2007. ;)
2006-12-20 02:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by 49erfan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, those children need to see their mother. The best Christmas gift you can give them is a loving relationship and respect for their mother even though she is very sick. Christmas is about giving, not about being selfish. It is very sad that people think mostly about themselves and THEIR Christmas, when it is about the good will of others around us. I have 5 step children and 2 of my own children. My children are going to see their father on Christmas. That is right and good! They need a relationship with their father. I have no right to get all bent out of shape over MY Christmas, I want to make others happy and when I do that I will in return be happy. I can't believe you say you HAVE NOTHING> What about your husband? What about doing something different? Why does it have to be a certain way? Please try to quit focusing on yourself, and on the goodwill of those around you and you will have a fantastic Christmas. Look for alternatives. Why can't you give something to those kids from "there mother" who is never going to give them anything because she can't because she is addicted to drugs. Do something outside yourself and you will have a great Christmas. Do something they have no idea you would do, and someday the kids will say, wow she was really caring to us! You don't know what you are saying. There are children there who have the same genes as their mother and can one day become "crack heads" themselves even with nurturing. If you don't show you care how will those children appreciate you when they are older? I'm certain that the kids will be home on Christmas Eve or the day after. The 25th is just a day that we planned Christmas on. Jesus was probably born in April. You have step children to raise, so its not about YOU and how you think Christmas should be, its about THEM and giving them the best that you can under the circumstances.
2006-12-20 00:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by pansyskunk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The real meaning of Christmas is celebrating the birth of Jesus. You don't have to open the presents on Christmas Day. Do it earlier this year, before the kids go to their mother's house. Have the dinner, give the kids their presents on the 24th, or the 23rd. It doesn't matter when it's celebrated. The best part is just getting everyone together.
2006-12-20 00:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have nothing. You have your husband. You should count your blessings. I am looking forward to getting up on Christmas morning, putting in some Christmas movies, making some snacks and popping a turkey in the oven. I think I will stay in my PJ's all day. It will be just me and my husband and I couldn't think of anything I'd rather do!
2006-12-20 02:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey cheer up,sounds like your doing great except for the Christmas day thing with mom.I suggest postponing your day a day.Have your celebration when the children come back.I had to do it before.Then you will all be together and that's what it is all about being with the ones you love.Just extend your day another day.Merry Christmas!
2006-12-20 00:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by one10soldier 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was thinking this too, i dont feel like watching them when christmas is over it doesn't seem right, yes it is quite sad when christmas is over all that build up just for a couple of days which go so fast, ive started thinking about next christmas already got a couple of things in the sale lol and next years cards and paper :-)
2016-05-22 23:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas may not be as exciting without the kids, since you worked hard at working on a big christmas, but then to come to think about it, without the kids, you can spend more time with your husband, gives you a chance to rekindle your love with your husband, it's not that bad.
2006-12-20 00:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound weird, but if you do it, you will have a Merry Christmas. On Christmas eve, take all the kids presents to the crackheads house, so the kids will be able to open them on Christmas morning. (Don't take them too early or she might sell them for drugs).
That way your's and their dad's spirit will at least be with them.
God bless you.
2006-12-20 00:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by nancy jo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing lasts forever although you have it in you to know how to do up a real nice celebration the next time the opportunity presents itself.
Rely on those great memories from time to time.
What you've described regarding joyous occasions should certainly help out!
2006-12-20 00:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sailon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the suggestion of postponing Christmas a day with your kids. My suggestion is on Christmas you could go volunteer at a soup kitchen.
2006-12-20 02:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by craftgirl03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋