2006-12-19 23:44:26 · 9 answers · asked by Ammara R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depends what kind of decision it is. I think their wishes should be taken seriously from whenever they can comprehend what the issue is, but of course they shouldn't be the sole person to take important decisions. For family matters, even adults often don't decide on their own but rather with their partner and children.
2006-12-19 23:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childrens should be allowed to take decisions once they are above 21 years ( For Female ) and 25 years ( For Male )
2006-12-20 08:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends upon what kind of decisions you have in mind (as well as the child's maturity and other circumstances). Obviously a parent wouldn't want to allow their child to make decisions that could harm them permanently - like experimenting with drugs, etc., whereas freedom to choose their own clothes (to a budget) can be useful.
I am very glad that my father wouldn't let me go to church or sign up to anything that required taking a vow of allegiance, although I caught hell for it from my teachers at school: 'Stand up! You mean you're the only girl who doesn't go to Sunday School?' to which my seven-year-old self replied 'My father says I should wait to make up my own mind.' Didn't go down well but I'm glad. I'm also glad that he allowed me to experiment with cigarettes and alcohol when in my early teens, saying - explicitly - that he would rather I did these things at home than feel that I had to hide away and do it in secret.
But - and this is a very personal view - I get bothered when I see young girls prematurely sexualised by going in for earrings and piercings and makeup when they're still children and don't have any idea about the messages they're unconsciously sending out. However, I'm really glad that my father took the view about 'do it at home rather than feel you have to hide' because even if he didn't like what I was doing, at least I was doing it in a safe place and less likely to come to harm.
2006-12-20 07:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends upon the type of decisions you're asking about. if it's a school, like a college, the kid might know best. if it's about marriage and the kid is really young, like 18 or less, then the parents. but other life decisions should be made by the life that the decision is being made for.
2006-12-23 17:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are constantly making decisions, from the color of a lollipop, to what kind of a car they want. As they gain in maturity, they make more life decisions. The time to back off varies with each child.
2006-12-20 07:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18
2006-12-20 07:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by CrazyChic86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children are very hard headed they want what the want and when they want it .and if you tell them they are wrong in their hearts they are always right . the parents have the job of raising the child teaching them what is right and wrong .you and your child should always make decisions together . give them a guide line to all things let them make decisions with out really making them .agree with your child tell your child if they have done something bad not to be scared of you but to talk to you and you both will work it out together . dont yell and scare your child that will only push them aways and make them more rebelious remember your child is your best friend make them feel that way . talk to them about what they have done and why it is wrong . soon you and your child will come to an agreement on things .making decisions could mean lots of things let them dress how they want but dont let them have the right to choice weither or not they want to drink or smoke. talk to your kids dont tell your kids NO you will not do that because face it they will do what they want regaurdless of what you say .if you tell your child no u cant have sex well they are going to have sex if they really want to they will start sneaking around and thats not what you want so instead of telling them no understand they will do it anyways so try talking to them about the importance of STD and how to be safe about the things the choice to do .
2006-12-20 07:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kara K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Minor decisions, like what dress to wear, as soon as they can. For major decisions like marrying, going abroad. at age 18.
2006-12-20 21:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever they understand the consequences of their actions and when they figure out what they want to be
2006-12-20 07:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by flatteredwu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋