Hello.I have a very close friend who I work with. I am also gay and with someone. For years my feelings for her have gone up and down - I have struggled because I do not want to risk loosing what we have. At times I feel it is mutual - other times I am not so sure. She also has a partner (husband) This is not purely sexual, it goes deeper then that .Whos to say I am not confused! If you know how I am feeling - and you have a way of helping me out I would be thank full.
2006-12-19 23:40:27 · 9 answers · asked by tracie100star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should not force the issue, she has made a decision to marry so be supportive as a friend and leave it at that. We all have that one friend that we would walk over hot coals barefooted for. But they are just that a friend and there is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do.
2006-12-19 23:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay this coming from the other side of the tracks I'm straight and i feel your pain in a way I'm only in my teens but i know exactly watch going through! I've had this amazing guy friend and well i love him to death we talk about everything so i decided to tell him how i really felt about him and he feels the same but he also has a girlfriend so i would naturally have to wait because he cant break up with her for no reason(who knows that might last forever but hes a good guy so he wouldn't break her heart) so i found myself and still find myself waiting ( its only been like 7 months) but the best thing i can tell you to do is to just tell her how you feel but if you really love the person that your with.... you should stay with that one.
2006-12-20 01:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by heartbreak ahead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 22:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by hazelbush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you did say she was married. i suggest you leave her alone. maybe she's just looking for comfort or attention that she can't get from her husband at the moment. take some time away from her because she is married. you never mentioned any details on your current relationship? are YOU happy with it? or is this just a fling thing?
good luck.
2006-12-20 00:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by T-NEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is love and there is love....
She may love you as a friend but it doent sound to me as though she loves you the way you want her to. If you push it the other way you will loose a good friend
Ask your self IS IT WORTH IT
2006-12-23 11:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by bren_elvis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not alone in the world. i agree that your love is true but i suggest you that you should stop thinking of her, because she is married.if you express your love in-front of her you will lost your close friend.forget about her i am there for you.
hope you like my answer......................
2006-12-19 23:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then i guess you are not gay.
sorry but if you have feelings for a girl, them you are having problems with you sexuality
2006-12-20 00:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probally have a brotherly love for her and she has a sisterly love for you.
2006-12-19 23:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its easy - she is married - leave her alone
2006-12-19 23:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋