Is it possible to stay sexually attracted to a partner indefinately?

Question

Or will those feelings fade sooner or later.

Do u all just *think* it's possible or have you been with someone for like more than 20 years & know you are still as sexually attracted to them as you used to be?

Answer 1

The lust that you have at the beginning fades, and the deeper feelings develop, and you get, if you're lucky, a wonderful comfortable understanding. Some people may find 'comfortable' boring - they want a new conquest every night. My husband and I have been together 26 years, and he's so sweet, I can't help but love him, and appreciate the fact that we now know each other so well. So to answer your question, yes, there are definately still sexual feelings, but they've matured.

It takes tolerance, and love - putting the other person's feelings first - and trying to anticipate their needs.

Answer 2

I have been married for 20 years, and yes, I am still sexually attracted to my wife. I consider myself lucky that she has kept up her appearance so well -- she exercises, eats healthy, dresses well, and so on. As some responses above mine have pointed out, feelings change over the years. With age, my sex drive has declined a bit while hers has increased some, for example. Whether sexual attraction will ever fade away, I can't say that I know that for sure, but I imagine we'll keep having sex for at least a couple more decades.

Answer 3

being sexually attracted is more than just about someone being good looking.

its the whole package.

therefore even when the looks fade a little, you should in theory still be sexually attracted to them indefinately

Answer 4

Yes, it is most certainly possible. Sexual attraction is more than just how someone looks. It's their attitude, their interaction with you, their communication, the effort they put into the relationship, their love, their passion, etc...

Marriage (or a lifelong commitment) takes a LOT of work for both people.

Answer 5

I have been with my fella for ten years and I still find him sexually attractive but not in the same way as I did when we met when it was all new and exiting. I wouldn't say my feelings have faded they have just mellowed along with me

Answer 6

I think it's possible, sure...but I also think it takes a lot of work from both partners. Each person has to make the effort to look nice when they're around each other, to do little things for each other and make one another feel good. Too often people become lazy and comfortable, and they let themselves go. They don't get dressed up and look nice for each other anymore, they don't do little things for each other anymore. It takes work.

Answer 7

I think sex & love are linked.

I think if you have a deep love for your partner you will always be sexually attracted because it won't just be his/her looks that turn you on, it will also be how they make you feel inside, the connection that you feel.

If you have found your true love, then it is definetely possible.

Answer 8

Sex is not always about feeling sexually attractions to the body. I for instance am more feeling excited that I love my gf's personality, that turns me on

Answer 9

sure. I have been with my husband for 10 years. Every time I see him I want to jump his bones. His hair has some gray in it and he has put on a few pounds but he is still as sexy as the day I met him.

Answer 10

Impossible as people change as they get older.Important that you try to share the same interests.Big problem men and women so different.Pray that you dont have financial problems the main reason for divorce.Enjoy each day as it comes.I hope there are many for you both