A boy and a girl. Am I mad? Should I just leave it at the two I have and be happy ?
2006-12-19 22:57:56 · 32 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Only you can really answer that question......
go with your instincts x
2006-12-19 22:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question! I'm in the same situation as you. Have 4 year old boy and 1 year old girl. Everyone thinks I'm mad wanting another baby because our set up is so 'perfect'. People ask why you would want another when you have one of each! But I don't care I just feel a strong maternal urge to have one more baby. But I'm also scared. Looking after 2 small children is hard enough and I agree with the poster who said it's not really fair on the existing children to have another baby in the house. But the truth of the matter is that when they are older they will really appreciate being part of a bigger family. My DH is one of 4 and he thinks it's great and his family are really close. I just think it woudl be difficult right now having three but it would get easier. So in answer to your question I would probably go for it if you think you will cope (or even if you won't cope!). You don't want to regret not having another when you are told old to change your mind.
Saying all that I still haven't made up my mind yet! Best wishes
2006-12-20 03:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by SlayerKat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aaw so cute :) but I think you should wait until the youngest is in school, so then they won't feel so unattend to, and by that time they'll be old enough to help you out with minor baby care stuff like changing diapers and warming bottles :) And if you're really sure about adding onemore, start the financial cuts from now, so by then you'll be all set for the schooling and stuff :) Good luck and kisses for the 2 lil cuties :)
2006-12-19 23:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Zenithia Victora 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, go with your extinct!
I also have 2 and even though it seems nowadays everyone tells me that they would never have more then 2 cause it is so hard and expensive something inside me is telling me that one more child is to be born to me and i am happy with that - i will have another God willing just not right now as i have a 3 year old and a 7 month old.
2006-12-19 23:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Flowers 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
.No go for it - we have 3 and it the best thing we ever did. Yes it is hard but it is also very rewarding. Mine are now 6,8 and 10 all Girls but we have such a great time and a great sense of family and belonging.
Follow your instincts they are usually right.
Its not just about money - that helps but I also not a lot of unhappy people with money. The happiness a large family can bring is priceless
2006-12-19 23:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by matt b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you really want another baby and are in a position too have one then go for it, i have 2 boys age 4 and nearly 2 and i am 20 weeks pregnant with my 3rd boy and am extremly excited!! nowadays more n more people are having more than 2 children, it is really up too you and if u really want a 3rd or not xxx
2006-12-20 00:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by jen10 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your not mad, i have two boys 2yrs and 3yrs and another due in 2 weeks, i was hoping for a girl this time, but as long as he's healthy who cares. mind you everyone thinks i'm mad. it's up to you how many kids you want as long as they're all happy and you're happy, who cares? good luck on your decision.
2006-12-20 01:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by stella p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer that question. But, if you feel your family is incomplete with just 2, then your answer is yes, you should have another baby.
I'm in the same situation...boy and girl and want another....but its all about the timing of when to have the 3rd.
2006-12-20 00:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This answer only you know! If you feel you want 3 (or more) kids, who's to say you can't? If you can manage financially, emotionally and physically, go with your instincts (always assuming your partner wants more). Just don't get to a point in your life where it's too late and regret not going for it.
Good luck
2006-12-19 23:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are mad. Having 3 children isn't exactly a massive family! As long as you think you can cope, go for it. I am one of 3 and love having a brother and a sister.
2006-12-19 23:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
kids are fabulous. your kids are so close together in age and still so young, there needs are difficult to meet as it is. bringing a third in while they are so young is not fair to them and will result in the neglect of the needs (not wants, needs) of some or all of your children.
have more if you want, but give the ones already here decent time with you before you crowd them out with a baby.
A baby needs at least 15 minutes every hour that it is awake to interact with you. That's separate from nursing on demand. When would you ever have time again for your precious 2.5 year old and your dethroned 4 year old who is still really a baby, too?
2006-12-19 23:01:51 · answer #11 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋