we have been going out for two years nearly and all he ever wants to do is have sex since i lost my viginity to him he is just a little bit younger than me and has an attitude problem, he has ADHD if anyone knows what that is it a function of the brain that causes him to act a lot violently and hyperactive, it is our first serious relationship, he never treats me or suprises me to dine out in a restaurant, What do you think i should do because talking doesn't help he never talks back u nless he can get something from me as a reward. HELP!!!! he doesn't know how to communicate
2006-12-19 22:43:43 · 10 answers · asked by sam s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You dont deserve him.In a relationship there must be give and receive from one another.However,in your case you are the one who is always giving but not receiving.Lastly,communication is the most important in a relationship.If he doesnt know how to communicate then leave him babe.Before you suffer futher.
2006-12-19 22:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by irah_miti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, yes I think you should. I was in a relationship like this before and as much as I thought I needed him during the relationship and after, I was much better without him. He ended up breaking up with me, and it was the hardest year of my life afterwards, but I realize now that it was an extremely unhealthy relationship between us and he loved me more for my physical attributes than my emotional ones.
You need someone who you can relate to physically and emotionally. I am in a great relationship now where we can talk and laugh about almost anything. Being comfortable in a relationship is one of the best things in the world and it will do tons of good to you as well.
Another point, just becuase you have been together for 2 years doesnt mean you should stay together. I was with my previous boyfriend for 1.5 years and it was so hard becuase we had fallen into a niche and I was used to being in a relationship. But being used to it doesnt mean you should stay in it, it can be a good thing but it can also be a rut you are stuck into. It will be hard to get used to at first, but really its needed sometimes. Sometimes you feel like you need him, but you really just need to not be alone. Everyone feels this, its completely normal.
It really isnt the best to listen to other peoples views on this, but it can help with your own views. Ask yourself if you are happy with the relationship, if you view him the same now as you did when you were happy together, if he has changed at all, if you still care about him or you just want someone to be with. Looking to yourself is the best way to deal with these situations.
2006-12-20 06:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Cawmaster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on. People blame so much on ADHD, like violent behavior and just being a not very nice individual. It sounds to me like he's just plain mean and why would you want to be with someone like that? I realize he is your first and it tends to make it a little harder to let go of him. Don't let yourself be treated badly by anyone. You deserve more. Good luck.
2006-12-20 06:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, he isnt respecting you - hes treating you like crap or more like a puppet
That isnt right and if you have any self dignity, leave him
There are really good people out there, its just pot luck finding someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
It will be hard at first but as time goes by, you will realise how right your decisions are.
Good luck & God bless
2006-12-20 06:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he is younger than you so he will act a little childish, what u need is a man your age who will treat you right. Plus if all he want is sex that not a relationship that what they call being sex buddies.
Has he ever said he loves you?
Do you love him?
Think about it.
2006-12-20 06:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by LUV-ME-OR-HATE-ME 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sweetie, He's using you and doesn't respect you. But you can get your self-respect back by not talking to him or seeing him and showing him you respect yourself and aren't going to take how he treats you anymore. Believe me, I've was in the same boat once. God Bless:)
2006-12-20 06:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want more from him than he is able to give. You realize this is not going to change.
This sort of screams breakup to me.
2006-12-20 06:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you already know his situation, why you still do the things with him..
if you will marry him, you already know that you will deal with 'that' situation forever.. and if you will dumb him now.. problem solved!
2006-12-20 07:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should let go and get a real man.
2006-12-20 07:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***.
2006-12-20 06:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by jay m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋