how do you deal with rejection.....?

Question

i have applied for a promotion several times but never seem to get anywhere. i always mess up the interview. i am about to find out about a job i went for and i am not hopeful but not sure if i can deal with the rejection again - i just know i am going to end up depressed and feeling crap ---- any advice please

Answer 1

As long as you know which car belongs to your boss, rejection can be turned quickly into one of life's sweetest tastes...

Dog sh*ite under a door handle, a tastefully drawn pen*is on the bonnet with the sharp end of a screwdriver or a tin of emulsion paint on the roof should turn that frown upside down.

Answer 2

Feeling hurt is normal. I've felt that way myself. It's important to remember that being rejected doesn't mean you're a bad person or a even a bad potential employee. It just means that for whatever reason, the employer found someone they felt was better qualified.

Some things that might help.

When rejected, ask what their reasons are (in a non-confrontational manner) this may give you ideas as to where you might improve.

Do practice interviews w. friends. Make sure they don't take it easy on you. Pausing and stammer over questions leaves a bad impression, so being able to give answers quickly and confidently will help. Don't ever shrug!

I have a sister who applied for a job in, of all things, waste management. During separate interviews for her and someone else competing for the job the boss took them down into one of the containers and explained part of the job was scrubbing them out and asked if they could handle that. Her competitor answered "Sure, I can do that." My sister answered, "Let me see," grabbed the brush and started going at it. Bosses love this kind of attitude. She got the job. This goes even more so for promotions.

Finally, it could just be that they don't see your value to the company. It might be best to move on and find one that will.

Answer 3

Instead of viewing it as rejection (and you don't know yet that you will be rejected again) find out what you can learn from the experience.

If you keep messing up the interview, get some specific feedback from your manager about what you did well, what didn't go so well and what you'd need to do next time to get the promotion.

A member of my team was fantastic at his job and richly deserved promotion but messed up the interview every time - partly due to nerves and partly due to the fact that he didn't know how to present himself and his achievements in the most constructive way.

I spent quite a bit of time coaching him on it and I'm very pleased to say that he flew through his next promotion interview and got the big fat pay rise he deserved.

See if your line manager - or another senior person in your company - will do the same for you.

Best of luck

:-)

Answer 4

Rejection can make you feel depressed especially when you have worked so hard for something and your expectations are high. I've been in a similar predicament and have learnt to accept whatever happens as something positive. View all rejections as an opportunity to improve rather than conformation of your inability to satisfy your employers needs. Just remember that each rejection only serves to make you appreciate the job when it eventually is offered to you. Good luck...

Answer 5

The only negative things you should say about yourself in an interview is that :

(instead of saying you're a slow learner...)
Yes, at times I am slow, but I'm thorough.

(instead of saying you hate what you do)
I feel I've reached my peak in my job after x years, I am at the stage now where I'm feeling really enthusiastic about learning new skills and taking on new challenges that this new job offers.

(instead of saying you have weaknesses...)
The only weakness I think I may have is perhaps I'm at the stage where I've learn't all I can in this position and would love to take on new training to enhance my skills even further...to benefit the company.

(instead of saying I'm nervous I'm going to screw this up)
Hi, I've been so looking forward to this interview for the new position, My hands are shaking with excitment !

If you are afraid of rejection, the universe will hear it and you'll be rejected. Turn those nerves into excited energy and act like you've got the new job. When going to the interview, smile and let them know this new job is something you are ready and willing to take on like your life depends on it. But only show positive energy to them, not a lack of confidence. Good luck. x

Answer 6

Have a serious look at your skill set, be honest to yourself and ask yourself as if you were from the other side of the table: Are the skills of this individual (You!) good enough for this position, if Yes, move on to a new company since you are not being appreciated there, if No, work on your skill set, get yourself to a B&N or library and start devouring books on your weaknesses then start to put what you learn into action. Think of rejection in the following way, each No! brings you closer to a Yes!.

Answer 7

Dear Friend,
Feeling the dought of rejection can be a wicked cycle to get into to. To live with dought and fear of the rejection will only feed it. I do not know you, but I am sure you are a good person and you have the confidence to get that promotion. Try thinking in your mind with eyes closed a picture of you getting the promotion. Think of you being confident in the interview and really impressing the interviewer. As humans, what we feed our subconscious will have a direct affect on our reality. If you believe you will get the job or promotion you are one step closer to making it true in your reality. Thinking you deserve the job does not mean you are selfish. I hope that will help, it has helped me in the past.

Answer 8

There is always a thing to be learned from interview (for that matter any experience). All people may not be biased while doing interviews and make negative decisions towards you. Even if they do that also can be alearning experience to see how to not let you go into that kind of situation. More you face such things more you could be successful. Look at such things with learning perspective.

Answer 9

I think companies want to be able to promote their employees at their own convenience. I'm not a typical person, so I never thought about or asked about a promotion, but my company keeps promoting me like twice a year. Weird! Maybe the best approach is passive.

Answer 10

If you have been rejected by the company you're working for, maybe you should apply for a more advanced position with another company. The way I deal with rejection is ... blink... and move forward.

Answer 11

Don't wait for a vacancy/promotion to come up. Talk to your line manager about your past experiences and your career aspirations. Ask him/her what additional training/exerience you need to move on and whether the company can provide this or at least assist in financial/time terms.

It will demonstrate your desire to move on and willingness to learn. Moreover, they will have little excuse if opportunities come along and you have the required experience/training to support your application.

Good luck