my boyfriend of 3 yrs ended it out of the blue this our 3rd week apart and ive since found out he left me for someone else, he is now going through solicitors trying to buy me out of our house, i know i wasnt perfect and neither was he but he was my entire world, we are both 22 and im a right mess cant stop crying havent eaten in 4 days (not punishing myself just feel sick cos ive lst him and everything we had) i keep imagioning him and her back at my house (i moved out back to my parents house) it upsets me that he could throw away 3 yrs for someone he hasnt known long. i feel so alone
2006-12-19 22:39:10 · 3 answers · asked by sweetness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
any idears on how to make the pain fade quicker?
2006-12-19 22:56:18 · update #1
cheers for everyones imput
2006-12-19 23:30:21 · update #2
=I bet you are and I have been heart broken as well. It sounds silly but time does heal wounds. This is a lousy time of year for something like this to happen but better to find out. I am sure he has been cheating for a while and you deserve much better than a man that breaks your heart. If a man makes you cry he is not worth it. I wish you the absolute best.
2006-12-22 12:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinysusan 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there is something practical you can do that will break you out of this. It's a Scientology thing, but doesn't need "faith" or "belief" to make it work. Won't do any harm to try it, will it?
Get some paper and a pen.
Write this question at the top of the first sheet "Look around here and find something that doesn't remind you of (insert b/f's name here)."
Then read the question to yourself and do it. Look around and find something that doesn't remind you of him. (It doesn't matter that you're not living at your home, it works anywhere.)
This will most likely be very very hard to start with (or, it might be easy to start with and then get hard, it'll get easier anyway).
When you find something, write down what it is.
Then do it again, and again, and keep doing it. This may take a while, and you might go through lots of teary stages, and angry stages etc etc. Keep going. You can take breaks (life happens), maybe do an hour per day, whatever.
You will know when you've finished because your viewpoint will change. And you'll be able to face him and not fall to pieces, and deal with all the cr*p he's sending your way.
Steve
2006-12-22 20:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just going to take time to get over him. u will never be alone if u got your family around u.
u should eat something or u will make yourself ill.
it is his lose that he has lost u for someone he has known for a Little time.
hope this help
2006-12-21 11:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by truckiechicken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋