i have been seeing a nice bloke for a few months now, but it doesn't seem to be moving anywhere. he is quite a bit younger than me. we are very different which is cool. he tells me he loves me greatly, but he hardly ever replies to my texts, we never speak on the phone & he never arranges to see me(thats always done by me) never suggests places to go. he wants to know everything about me and has stepped into my world(uni, friends, family) and has shown no interest in introducing me to his friends/family. i don't know!!?? i was single for 6 years(so maybe its me) and he has never had a serious relationship before. he says all the right things but his actions paint a different picture?? future or no future for us?please help!!
2006-12-19 22:32:55 · 20 answers · asked by zoezeph 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, I am not a guru when it comes to this but, only thing I could tell you is that when a guy loves you dearly they make sure to it that you are well taken care of and at the same time they'll show you, you're the most important person of their lives. meaning to say, they'll let you know whenever they are and update you whatever they're doing, with that kind of attitude it only shows he is thinking of you all day/night long. It doesnt necessarily matter how long you've been single or he haven't had a serious relationship because as a person its already our HUMAN INSTINCT. Truth sometimes does hurt, but you know what there's someone out there that is really meant for you. God Loves you!
2006-12-19 22:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of nice blokes out there who would gladly introduce you to friends and family, this bloke seems to be ashamed of the age difference, not answering texts in case he's asked by his mates who you are etc........seems like a lot of hard work, don't you have enough of that at uni...kick this lad into touch, someone else will come along saying all the right things, doing all the right things and most importantly allowing you to step into their world.
2006-12-19 22:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to him ... tell him that u r missing parts from his life and that u would feel much better knowing them .
let him show u his "world" for a change
maybe its because he hasnt had any serious relationship till now and does not know what to do .
i am sure that he will understand u and as for is there is a future ??? well my dear , who can ever tell in an relationship ? wait and see !!!!
all the best for u !
2006-12-19 23:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel. Give him a couple of weeks to prove himself but if after that nothing has changed, then you should get rid of him. There is no point wasting your time on someone like that, a relationship requires effort from both people involved!!!
2006-12-19 23:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by mazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think this is going anywhere , sorry , it takes 2 to make a relationship work and that would mean he has to contribute also , you can`t do it all . He needs to take the lead now and again and suggest things .
Good luck xx
2006-12-19 22:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer the question, but be wary of someone who doesn't reveal much about themselves. Instinct is normally a good judge.
When someone is right, you don't get onto websites like this to ask questions about it, you are too overwhelmed with emotion to think of anything else but love.
2006-12-19 22:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you are asking the question probably means that you already know the answer.
but before you take drastic steps why don't you sit down with him and tell him what you have just told us. maybe he didn't realise and there are things he can do to improve the relationship.
2006-12-19 22:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already answered your own question. Theres no future there. End it and move on. Last thing you want is to continue it for years, marry him, then realise you have made a mistake.
2006-12-19 22:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by beanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, if he's not meeting your needs, then talk to him and give him the opportunity to respond. If you can't talk to him, then bigger issue and if he doesn't respond accordingly, also big issue. This is about you and how he makes you feel. Best you test/talk it through now before you attach any further. Good luck x
2006-12-19 22:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by basement_chix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from reading your message makes me think of my relationship, he sounds the same but we have been a couple for almost two years this january coming, he says all the right things but his actions say different, ever since i let him lose my virginty that all he wants.
2006-12-19 22:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by sam s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋