It's not like there's something wrong in my life. i have a place to live, clothes to dress with, food to eat. i will start working next month so i'll have an income. i share a flat with my childhood friend and she's great, we get along well.
No reason to be unhappy.
But still this is exactly what i am. 90% of the time i feel strangely supressed and alone. i dream about dying and don't have anything to offer to life that it could work on.
It's always been there but these last years i haven't been able to cover for it, so my friend knows bit about it, not much though.
Now it is starting to show TOO much, i'm afraid i might put off my new acquaintance with my negativity. This is the last thing i want cuz i think very highly of him.
And that is why i'm asking.
How do i get rid of this stupid feeling? Or at least how can i keep it to myself when in times it seems too big?
What i want is to be positive, so people would feel comfortable around me. i don't want to loose my new friend.
2006-12-19 22:27:30 · 10 answers · asked by Did i just say something silly? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Volunteering - did that.
Weird - umm, yeah!
Travel - i might, but it would be for work.
Medicines - no, i use them only when i really can't do without anymore; and i don't think i'm clinically depressed.
Wine - i rarely drink.
2006-12-23 18:05:26 · update #1
You can have some kind of illness that is affecting your inner well being (very common). Depression or a feeling of being somehow pointless and having no interest, can be a very real side effect of an unwell person. Eating sugar, grains, yeast, and basically junkfood can cause a person to feel less well inside and less like themselves and depression and meaningless can very easily take hold. Many times mental symptoms are are simply teh sign of a toxic system, NOT mental illness itself.
The other is, without pushing religion, you maybe missing God in your life. That is up to you should you wish to pursue the idea that one can have everything in this world, yet have nothing.
It is very possible that the emptiness you feel is simply not going to be filled up by anything of this world and the more you attempt to pursue things and material stuff, the more you find it's not filling you up and you continue to come up "empty".
Nothing wrong with you at all, you are a perfectly normal person searching for meaning and feeling empty.
The thing is, positivity comes from having a sense of mental well being. Even a poverty stricken person or a crippled person may still have the capacity for positive thinking. Another person may have a condition that afflicts their sense of how they perceive everything and feel empty and negative, even if they seem to have all their functioning limbs etc and no real money problems.
I would investigate both the physical and spiritual if I were you. You will not be able to put on the act of being positive, if you are feeling dead and empty inside. There is a reason and you need to stop being hard on yourself!
People may tell you to "get a life" and "Be grateful for what you have". You already know this and this is not what it's about. It's not a stupid feeling either, what you have is very real and it's not something to feel guilty about but to take notice of it and find out where it's coming from. And no it's not "you". No person feels this way, unless there is a profound reason.
Do not add to it by being hard on yourself. A LOT of people suffer from this for various reasons and those who are near and dear to you, need to be understanding and loving, just as they would with someone suffering from an external physical ailment. Because they cannot "see" yours, doesn't make it any less....often it's worse!
2006-12-19 22:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Gus 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There was a book called Megatrends - came out about 25 years ago - told about the information age we are living in now. One of the facets was the overwhelming fast paced lives we are now living and the lack of spiritual awareness. Dr. Wayne Dyer is one of the great scientists/ spirtual teachers of our time. People have to be taught how to live and enjoy their everyday lives. You don't have to be religious to gain insight from people like Joyce Meyers, who I reference frequently. Depak Chopra is another. Yoga, zen.. They all teach you how to live more fully. Clinical depression would probably be your diagnosis. Medications would make you feel better functionally but that empty feeling inside would persist without some self-actualization work on your part. People always working from the outside in - need to work on both. A mild medication from a good doctor would be a good start and then some reading, etc - delving beyond the superficial. You have control over your thoughts and feelings. Negativity is something you allow through not controlling/changing those thought patterns and following those emotions instead of challenging them rationally as you did with this question. Also your nutrition/life style play a major part. You are not alone in what you are experiencing - we all have to find our way.
2006-12-19 23:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Quest 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been sailing in the same boat and have been taking medicines prescribed by a renowned psychiatrist. They seem to help and I have been happy for the last few days and much more positive. Meditation is a good option too but only as a complement and not as an alternative.
2006-12-19 22:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just wanted to say that I TOTALLY know what you're going through. I can't even believe how well you've put it. Sad thing is... I have NO idea what the solution is... except perhaps a new boyfriend. Still, the market here is DEAD, so... maybe I'll just stick to wine guzzling with my girls -it really does help!
2006-12-19 22:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Arsengal 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have that feeling alot and the simplest way is just to fill my time with smthin like going to internet making researchs reading books going out or just try to find the thing inside of me that i dont know hwat is it that is making me misrable and finally accept the one who you are and the life that you live ;)
2006-12-19 22:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by kilin_jok 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are Clinical depressed. Seek professional help.
2006-12-19 22:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I want you to do two things....travel somewhere you never have been before....and do some volunteer work for just one day...get back to me after you have done that
2006-12-19 22:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are creating thought that are harmful to you and to your personal relationship..I think you are having nervous breakdown..I think you must seek professional help..
2006-12-19 22:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by u_olwez_hav_me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Paxil works for me. Good luck.
2006-12-19 22:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by ashleighshea1982 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wierd huh?
2006-12-19 22:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by cyle*xie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋