Hey mates . i have been married for one year now and the bedroom scene has taken a nose dive let me add and there is nothing being given from my wife when it come to conjugal rights . how i have the pleasure of having quite a few lady friens who are willing to come to my aid . And they are not ladies of ill repute . Now ladies and gentalmen who are sober minded .... what does a dude do . Man its been like four months of anguish i feel like i will burst . what say yee
2006-12-19 22:26:17 · 20 answers · asked by Ukoo fulani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After all the outbursts i have gotten from some ladies here let me put something straight ( no pun intended )
I am very well versed in sexuality matters spice and all the herbs together
Chicks like Kui you are no help to the womes liberation movement and sex is indeed ranked in the heirachy of needs ( hows that )
2006-12-19 22:59:15 · update #1
if you put the energy, that you have to give to these women friends, back into your relationship with your with wife. sparks will fly. or leave her,....just as simple as that.
2006-12-19 22:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce your wife. She deserves better.
It's my experience that the more a man acts like sex is the only important thing, the less a woman wants to have it. If you're constantly looking at other women, talking about it, etc, you're going to make her feel unattractive and forget her ever being in the mood.
Did you maybe think that her lack of sex drive has something to do with you? Maybe you gained weight or got lazy in the bedroom? I've noticed that after being with someone for a while, the foreplay takes a nose dive. Women don't usually get off on just sex and what's the point for her if she's not going to get off?
2006-12-19 23:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it always turn out to be the woman's fault when things go sour in the bedroom??? Have you ever considered the possibility that YOU are not doing enough to meet HER needs, therefore she's not interested in pleasing you??? And, of course, being a man, your first instinct is to cheat - good grief!! You are married, and you need to work things out with your wife. Stop being so selfish, and try entertaining the idea that maybe it's YOU that's causing the problem. By the way you worded your question, I'm getting the impression you're only interested in your own satisfaction. Jeez.
2006-12-19 22:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Heather C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly YOU would. It's *** HOLES like you that make marriage a total NOT GOING THERE place. What's "4 months of anguish" compared to a lifetime of unconditional love and love making? YOU make the bedroom what it is, things don't just go smoothly all the time... WHAT THE **** were you thinking, anyway, when you took that walk down the aisle two minutes ago? You know what? **** THEM. EVERY ONE of your "few lady friens" of no "ill repute" I hope you get AIDS.
2006-12-19 22:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Arsengal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the spark has went out in the bedroom, Why not try getting it back first? It takes 2 ..Maybe your not doing something right..Instead of cheating try to spice up the love life with your wife..
2006-12-19 23:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this go on any longer but have it out with your wife. You have got to tell her how you feel and find out what the problem is. Just remember sex is not the only component in a marriage and it could be that you are failing her in some way and she doesn't know how to tell you because you react badly to any critisism. Communicate, negotiate and compromise.
2006-12-19 22:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ted T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two are going to be together then the solutions should be found between the two of you... It has to be talked about, either together or with a professional. If no communication exists and can't be established then its time to get a divorce, for both of you. I'd suggest you give ole Mary Thumb and her 4 little sisters a fling before going outside of the relationship.
2006-12-19 22:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if you use phrases in the bedroom like "i'd like to exercise my conjugal rights now," i can see why you're not getting any.
don't cheat, just have a talk and ask her what you can do to improve your guys' sex life. maybe she doesn't think there's a huge problem, and if you communicated, maybe you'd find the best way for the both of you to get some pleasure. how about some foreplay once in a while?
2006-12-19 22:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you expect from other women that your wife can´t give you? Wouldn´t it only be fair to talk to her about how you feel?
A year ago you married this women and I hope you did because you were in love with her. What has changed? Why not talk to her about your mutual expectations?
Just mating with other women does not help you to develop a lasting relationship.
2006-12-19 22:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak from personal experience because I'm in an open relationship, but I will share a column that might be helpful, from sex advice columnist Dan Savage:
2006-12-20 02:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife, take her to a counselor and see if you can make your marriage work and obtain conjugal rights from your wife. Otherwise, divorce her and marry to one of your lady friends who are so generous.
2006-12-19 22:30:54 · answer #11 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋